herpes is not transmitted through clothing. it also is easily killed with soap and water so just washing your bathing suit is fine. It also doesn't float through water so being in a hot tub together isn't an issue.
your friends are grown ups and responsible for their own sexual health. If they aren't asking partners prior to sex about std's and testing and practicing safer sex, their issue, not yours!
This friend shared with you private medical information, it's not your place to share it with others. indeed it is hard sometimes to be caught in the middle but perhaps send the link to the free herpes handbook by terri warren to your new friend so she can learn more about her herpes?
while herpes is on your mind, have you ever been tested to know your own status? Might be a good time to better educate yourself and your friends so you can all learn more together about this very common and misunderstood virus View Thread
Talking about std testing is NORMAL and something we all should be doing EVERY TIME before we have sex with a new partner :)