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Type Of STD Tests and Results? Any Medications To Control Your STD?
2. Find as many supportive communities as you can. It makes you feel like you're not alone in your suffering or misery.
3. Knowing the fact about STDs is very important, it is not the end of the world but just a simple virus that can be controlled by you the carrier. Don't let it take over your happiness because there is much more to life than being depressed.
4. Remember that there a lot of people with STD'S, not the end of our social world because of it, at all!..Embrace it, be frank about yourself, and deal with it that way , and if your partner, dosnt understand , educate he or she about it, i am quite sure they will understand, after they get over the inital shock, if they dont then obviously they are not the right mate for you anyways !!
5. Surround yourself with great positive people who understand, sympathize, or can relate to your situation and make healthy choices. Living, laughing, loving is up to you... there are great guys and girls out there... they aren't hard to find... just make sure you don't lie to them or yourself. The right people will come along and stay and the wrong people will be filtered out. God bless you and remember to stay positive.
6. You have to accept what you have and let go of the past and live in the future. You have so much more life ahead, dont wasted it on being misable because life had thrown you a curve ball. Get into a support group and meet others who understand they will help through this, so you can start living again.View Thread
I've read just about everything there is on HSV-2.. and i cant still bring myself to belive it ,,and the worst thing is i cant even think of kiss my kid.. View Thread
Anyone with other ways to reduce flare ups please advise.View Thread
Anyway... apparently they began or maybe just finished a study on lubricants with Carrageenan that seem REALLY promising in the protection against HPV. I also think that it might help fight it as well but I might be making that up. Either way, it's pretty exciting

here are two links. one to the HPV convention in Germany (there was also one in Canada) and one about the product Carraguard and Bioguard
http://www.hpv2010.org/main/index.php?option=com_conference&view=presentation&id=1110&conference=1
http://www.news-medical.net/news/20100726/Einstein-scientists-awarded-2441M-to-test-microbicide-Carraguard-against-HPV.aspx?page=2View Thread
It's so hard for us to remember who anon3456 is and anon2389 is where as keeping straight in our head who cupcake95 is and bulldog2010 is much easier! Also when you post under anonymous, we can't click on your name to learn more about you or read your other posts. It really does help us help you more 
Also it's helpful to just keep adding to your original post instead of to keep making a new post each time. Keeps all your "story" in one spot and makes it easy for us to scan through it all when we reply.
If you normally post in another forum on webmd like for instance the exercise forum and don't want folks on that forum to see that you now have std related questions, then by all means use the anonymous posting option but it seems like everyone is choosing to post anonymously and then it gets so confusing when folks are posting in the same post under anonymous and their regular nickname or even when 3 or 4 people are all posting using the anonymous option!!! this is all volunteer for all of us so anything you can do to make it easier is greatly appreciated

thank you!View Thread
I found out February 3, 2009 I had herpes. It was a visual exam and then confirmed with an IgG test two weeks later. I had to tell him of course because chances were, he didn't know he had it himself. He was the first person I was with after being with my ex(a virgin, having only been with me and obviously tested negative for all std's) and I was negative prior to being with him.
So I make the call. I say "Hey, I need to let you know that I just tested positive for Herpes2 and I think you should get tested. I am not sure if you know or not that you have this. I am not mad." He breaks the silence with "its not me,I don't have anything, you are lying." and hangs up.... I WAS FURIOUS. How could he out right deny this, knowing that I hadn't been with anyone else and I had std clean record to prove it, until now!!! I tried to call him and be calm with him feeling like maybe he was one of the 90% that didn't know.. But after I spoke with him, I felt like he was the 10% that didn't care who else had it too and they would just keep passing the Gift!
I decided to never call back again. I said what I had to say and that was it. I was wrong. There was more that needed to be said. I needed to apologize.
Since I knew he would not accept my calls, I wrote him a letter.
"Dear *****,
I forgive you.
Whether or not you were aware that you had this, the fact is, I now have it. What's done is done, the Past has Passed. Being angry with you will not cure me. Hating you will not remove the pain. Holding a grudge will not allow me to move on. I have chosen to abstain from sex until the time is right. As hard as it may be, I know that eventually I will have to have the talk with someone someday. I cannot, in no way continue to have sex knowing that I can pass this to someone else. The pain I feel is not agony towards my situation, but hurt of being betrayed by someone I have trusted. I refuse to have someone feel that way towards me. I hope and pray you get tested so you can start taking care of yourself. And if you honestly truly didn't know you had it, then maybe the one who gave it to you doesn't know either. We can not stop spreading this virus until we start spreading the word about it.
In the past few days since I found out, I have been doing an insane amount of research. Did you know that that 1 in 5 women have this and 1 in 4 men. You can go years without a symptom. You can spread this even with a condom. You can spread this even if you are not having an outbreak(which is why you should still warn your partner so they don't get surpised 4 weeks later like me). That there are suppressive remedies to get you through this. I am not much a pill taker so I have found natural ways to help me these past few days. Vitamin L-Lysine, Echinacea, and Green Tea have done wonders:)
But the bottom line here, whether you are aware of this or not, I am not mad. I forgive you. I wish you all the best.
Yours Truly."
I have discovered that ANGER, REGRET, SADNESS, PITTY, REVENGE, HATE, GRUDGES, SORROW, and so on, only make dealing with this harder. It doesn't matter where you got it from, who gave it to you or how. Doesn't matter if you were lied to, cheated on, born with it, whatever... The fact is, YOU HAVE HERPES now, and all you can do it get the info and MOVE FORWARD. Its a lot to deal with, but it is manageable. Don't be afraid to have the talk with a new partner, give them the opportunity to decide, don't take the risk. Some might turn tail and run but one day, you might find the one who loves ALL of you;Tthe Good, The Bad and The Herpes;)
ps. He called a year later and apologized. Said it had been killing him inside for a year and he was so sorry. Again, I only had forgiveness towards him.View Thread
I have never had a cold sore so assume my type 1 virus is genital. I know that type 1 isn't as easily spread and wonder if him giving me oral sex is a thing of the past.View Thread
1) Is there a way 2 know how gave it 2 whom ?
2) Will this mean I can NEVER have unprotected sex again ?
3) Can I NEVER have oral sex again ?
4) I had NO clue anything was wrong until 2 days later. (I thought it was from rubbing) Did I maybe have it before & not know it. I have been with the same partner for 11 years & had a moment of weakness.
5) The person I was with had red dots on him after we were together & we both thought it was just from rubbing ? Was he a carrier ? His spots are gone & I am still with mine ?
6) The person I was with is a fireman & emt, does he need 2 tell his boss he might be infected ?
7) I am on Zovirax ~ 5 days 5 pills a day then 1 pill 2 times a day after. Can I take all 5 pills @ once or do I have 2 take them thru out the day ? & are there side effects ?
Should the person I was with be on these pills also ? He was just told & has not been 2 the doctor yet, could he not even have it ? 9) If I have genital herpes does that mean I cant kiss someone & exchange sliva ?
Someone please help me I am FREAKING out big time.. ThanksView Thread
when you post, it's helpful to tell us your gender, the last time you had sex and any testing you've had done so far.
it's easiest for us to help you if you just keep adding to your post instead of making multiple new posts. it's hard for us to hunt down prior posts on this new format webmd recently changed to plus it really uses up a lot of our time when we have to hunt for prior posts. It really does help us help you better

Also anonymous posting certainly has it's place, especially if you are a regular here on other exchanges and don't want the folks in your healthy eating exchange for instance to know that you had std concerns but if you are only posting on this forum, picking a name and using it is most helpful for us. Hard to keep track of who is anonymous3456 and who is anonymous3457 whereas we stand a better chance of remembering who cupcake93 is

also please keep in mind, everyone, including Terri , is volunteering their time here. Please be polite and patient and we try to do the same for you

thanks !View Thread
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