I'M A 44 YR OLD MOTHER WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST EIGHT YRS. MY HUSBAND IS CURRENTLY LOCKED UP AND I...
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I'M A 44 YR OLD MOTHER WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST EIGHT YRS. MY HUSBAND IS CURRENTLY LOCKED UP AND I HAVEN'T BEEN WITH ANYBODY FOR 9 YRS. ABOUT A YEAR AGO, I FOUND OUT THAT I HAD HSV2 AND DON'T KNOW WHO GAVE IT TO ME. AT FIRST I STARTED NOTICING THAT I HAD MOUTH SORES AND THEN IT LED TO GENITAL SORES. I'M NOT A FAN OF KISSING PEOPLE BUT SOME GUYS WENT DOWN ON ME, COULD IT BE THAT I CONTRACTED THE VIRUS FROM THAT. MY HUSBAND THINKS THAT I'VE BEEN UNFAITHFUL. COULD SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND HOW I GOT THIS VIRUS. IF WE DECIDE TO HAVE SEX UNPROTECTED, COULD HE BE AT RISK? WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO HAVE SEX? I NEED TO KNOW IS THERE A FUTURE WITH MY HUSBAND.View Thread
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IM SOO NEW TO GENITAL HERPES...I GOT IT FROM MY HUSBAND...IVE NEVER HAD A SYMPTON OR OUTBREAK...WE ARE SEMI SEPARATED...QUESTION...I MET SOMEONE AND SO FAR ALL WE'VE DONE IS HEAVY KISSING..I TOLD HIM ABOUT IT AND NOW HE'S FREAKING OUT..HE THINKS HE CAN GET IT FROM KISSING..HOW CAN I EASE HIS PAIN...I KNOW ITS OVER BETWEEN US...IM OK .. BUT HE'S ANGRY I DIDNT TELL HIM UNTIL AFTER WE KISSED.View Thread
1. Be yourself, and be patient. No matter what situation it is you are going through, and don't ever let anyone make you feel bad about yourself.
2. Find as many supportive communities as you can. It makes you feel like you're not alone in your suffering or misery.
3. Knowing the fact about STDs is very important, it is not the end of the world but just a simple virus that can be controlled by you the carrier. Don't let it take over your happiness because there is much more to life than being depressed.
4. Remember that there a lot of people with STD'S, not the end of our social world because of it, at all!..Embrace it, be frank about yourself, and deal with it that way , and if your partner, dosnt understand , educate he or she about it, i am quite sure they will understand, after they get over the inital shock, if they dont then obviously they are not the right mate for you anyways !!
5. Surround yourself with great positive people who understand, sympathize, or can relate to your situation and make healthy choices. Living, laughing, loving is up to you... there are great guys and girls out there... they aren't hard to find... just make sure you don't lie to them or yourself. The right people will come along and stay and the wrong people will be filtered out. God bless you and remember to stay positive.
6. You have to accept what you have and let go of the past and live in the future. You have so much more life ahead, dont wasted it on being misable because life had thrown you a curve ball. Get into a support group and meet others who understand they will help through this, so you can start living again.View Thread
so i think i have HSV-2.. and am really really scarred.. i was always safe about who i've i dated...
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so i think i have HSV-2.. and am really really scarred.. i was always safe about who i've i dated .Always asked about the sexually history ..i just separated from my ex 8 months ago and started back up with him 3 months ago ,we were together for 9yrs so walking away was not so easy ... but now i have lil dots in my mouth and am so so angry and embarrassed that i cant even look at myself and the bad thing is he doesn't what to get back together ... i feel so hurt and confessed i don't know what to do ? I've read just about everything there is on HSV-2.. and i cant still bring myself to belive it ,,and the worst thing is i cant even think of kiss my kid.. View Thread
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I was having monthly breakouts of genital herpes, until a doctor suggested the use of vitamin B complex...
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I was having monthly breakouts of genital herpes, until a doctor suggested the use of vitamin B complex tablets which help boost the immune system. I have also used herbal immune boosters such as amaranth and moringa, which have helped me go 3 to 5 months without breakouts. So i have decided to got the immune booster route rather than the antiviral way, but it is working for me.
Anyone with other ways to reduce flare ups please advise.View Thread
ok... so I don't really talk about this with anyone else so that is why I keep on posting here (that's all part of my coping/processing phase, I guess). Most sites provide no useful information about the virus and I hear anything from it being a horror to really not a big deal at all. So, at night I research on the subject. Tonight I came across some really interesting stuff which is both recent in the field and pretty exciting. I mean, I didn't even know that there were such things as HPV conventions around the world (apparently people DO try to find cures and treatment options).
Anyway... apparently they began or maybe just finished a study on lubricants with Carrageenan that seem REALLY promising in the protection against HPV. I also think that it might help fight it as well but I might be making that up. Either way, it's pretty exciting
here are two links. one to the HPV convention in Germany (there was also one in Canada) and one about the product Carraguard and Bioguard
It's really helpful when you post under your webmd nickname instead of always choosing to post anonymously It's so hard for us to remember who anon3456 is and anon2389 is where as keeping straight in our head who cupcake95 is and bulldog2010 is much easier! Also when you post under anonymous, we can't click on your name to learn more about you or read your other posts. It really does help us help you more
Also it's helpful to just keep adding to your original post instead of to keep making a new post each time. Keeps all your "story" in one spot and makes it easy for us to scan through it all when we reply.
If you normally post in another forum on webmd like for instance the exercise forum and don't want folks on that forum to see that you now have std related questions, then by all means use the anonymous posting option but it seems like everyone is choosing to post anonymously and then it gets so confusing when folks are posting in the same post under anonymous and their regular nickname or even when 3 or 4 people are all posting using the anonymous option!!! this is all volunteer for all of us so anything you can do to make it easier is greatly appreciated
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I am a female. About a week ago i had PROTECTED sex with someone and after the fact he told me he had herpes....
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I am a female. About a week ago i had PROTECTED sex with someone and after the fact he told me he had herpes. He has not had a break out in 3 years and even though i know its wrong he is married. His wife has been tested and does not have the virus. We have only had sex once, but have played the touchy feely game 2 prevous times. I am really worried. I have no symptoms of any kind, but I am wondering if I need to continue to be freaking out or just relax and not worry about it. I am planning to go for my yearly exam in a few weeks and plan to talk to my dr about it, but just need piece of mind right now.View Thread
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Does anyone out there find that prior to outbreak you have terrible migraines that move from head to back of neck? They last about three days and then the outbreak, usually a fever blister on the face..... I sure would like to know if this happens to anyone else and what I could do for the miserable headaches. They immobilize me and I don't feel like doing anything. I guess I have been experiencing this for about ten years and I would love some advise. Who in the world do you ask? It is so embarassing because my doctor and I go to same church and sing in choir together and I just do not want to discuss with her and she does treat me for the migraines. I believe the two are related somehow. Does anyone have any advise for me?View Thread
I am a 20yr female and i have hsv2 and hvp that causes cervical cancer about 3months. I am currently taking acyclovir800mg daily,and llysine 1000mg, vitamin c 500mg, zinc 5mg when i am having an ob. Each time i had sex with my exbf (who doesnt have it so we agreed to stop our relationship when he was tested) i get another ob. The same area where I had my first ob opens each time. Its painful but mostly a severe itching. I plan to not have sex until I get married because i dont want anymore ob, but Im afraid I will never have sex again. I dont know who gave this to me and I feel horrible and depressed alot of the times bc I have no one i can trust with the truth anymore. I am young and I feel like my life is over, I want to be a nurse but I am afraid ppl are not gonna want to work with me or not hire me bc of my conditions. Is there any tips to having comfortable sex and not bring on an ob? Is it possible that I could be denied a profession in the medical field bc of my medical record, would u work with me? I plan to purchase the handbook but if anyone can help words of wisdom anything...thank you.View Thread
My partner has recently accused me of giving him chlamydia and I'm in the process of getting tested (again- I've been tested before) but I have never had any symptoms. The likelihood that I could have be infected would have been from a previous cheating partner almost 2 years ago. He at the time had been tested and clean but since cheating, I'm not sure. Is it plausible that it could have been dormant for that long in me with absolutely NO symptoms or any other type of infections? (since it ends up causing PID and other health risks).View Thread
Did you know that 90% of people living with Herpes, DON'T KNOW THEY HAVE IT. Thats a big number. So you just found out you have Herpes, now what? I know the first thing I thought about was, "oh my gosh, how could he not have told me"....
I found out February 3, 2009 I had herpes. It was a visual exam and then confirmed with an IgG test two weeks later. I had to tell him of course because chances were, he didn't know he had it himself. He was the first person I was with after being with my ex(a virgin, having only been with me and obviously tested negative for all std's) and I was negative prior to being with him.
So I make the call. I say "Hey, I need to let you know that I just tested positive for Herpes2 and I think you should get tested. I am not sure if you know or not that you have this. I am not mad." He breaks the silence with "its not me,I don't have anything, you are lying." and hangs up.... I WAS FURIOUS. How could he out right deny this, knowing that I hadn't been with anyone else and I had std clean record to prove it, until now!!! I tried to call him and be calm with him feeling like maybe he was one of the 90% that didn't know.. But after I spoke with him, I felt like he was the 10% that didn't care who else had it too and they would just keep passing the Gift!
I decided to never call back again. I said what I had to say and that was it. I was wrong. There was more that needed to be said. I needed to apologize.
Since I knew he would not accept my calls, I wrote him a letter.
"Dear *****, I forgive you. Whether or not you were aware that you had this, the fact is, I now have it. What's done is done, the Past has Passed. Being angry with you will not cure me. Hating you will not remove the pain. Holding a grudge will not allow me to move on. I have chosen to abstain from sex until the time is right. As hard as it may be, I know that eventually I will have to have the talk with someone someday. I cannot, in no way continue to have sex knowing that I can pass this to someone else. The pain I feel is not agony towards my situation, but hurt of being betrayed by someone I have trusted. I refuse to have someone feel that way towards me. I hope and pray you get tested so you can start taking care of yourself. And if you honestly truly didn't know you had it, then maybe the one who gave it to you doesn't know either. We can not stop spreading this virus until we start spreading the word about it. In the past few days since I found out, I have been doing an insane amount of research. Did you know that that 1 in 5 women have this and 1 in 4 men. You can go years without a symptom. You can spread this even with a condom. You can spread this even if you are not having an outbreak(which is why you should still warn your partner so they don't get surpised 4 weeks later like me). That there are suppressive remedies to get you through this. I am not much a pill taker so I have found natural ways to help me these past few days. Vitamin L-Lysine, Echinacea, and Green Tea have done wonders:) But the bottom line here, whether you are aware of this or not, I am not mad. I forgive you. I wish you all the best. Yours Truly."
I have discovered that ANGER, REGRET, SADNESS, PITTY, REVENGE, HATE, GRUDGES, SORROW, and so on, only make dealing with this harder. It doesn't matter where you got it from, who gave it to you or how. Doesn't matter if you were lied to, cheated on, born with it, whatever... The fact is, YOU HAVE HERPES now, and all you can do it get the info and MOVE FORWARD. Its a lot to deal with, but it is manageable. Don't be afraid to have the talk with a new partner, give them the opportunity to decide, don't take the risk. Some might turn tail and run but one day, you might find the one who loves ALL of you;Tthe Good, The Bad and The Herpes;)
ps. He called a year later and apologized. Said it had been killing him inside for a year and he was so sorry. Again, I only had forgiveness towards him.View Thread
Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.
Hi, I just went to my clinician today who suspects that I have herpes. A culture and blood test were ordered. This would be my first outbreak and the pain is unbearable. How does everyone else cope with the pain. I was prescribed the typical medications but is there anything else I can do until I get a confirmed diagnosis? If both culture and blood test are negative what are the possibilities of it being something else?View Thread
I was just diagnosed with herpes last week. The doctor indicated my IGG test was negative; however, the IGM test came back slightly positive. From what I have been reading the past few days is that the IGM test is not as accurrate as the IGG. I am confused and scared and talked to both partners I have been with in the last three years. Neither of them are experiencing any symptoms. At this point, I do not see any blisters, but I am running a low grade fever. Can anyone help???View Thread
My new partner and I had SDI testing done at the beginning of our relationship and both came out negative. My testing didn't include herpes. After being together for 6 months, I developed a sore, had a swab test that was negative and bloodwork that came back positive for herpes 1 & 2. Since the diagnosis we are using a condom. My doctor gave me a prescription to use if I have another outbreak and we are waiting for him to get bloodwork tested again. I have read Good News About the Bad News which was very helpful but still have questions.
I have never had a cold sore so assume my type 1 virus is genital. I know that type 1 isn't as easily spread and wonder if him giving me oral sex is a thing of the past.View Thread
I was just told I have genital herpes & have a LOT of questions: 1) Is there a way 2 know how gave it 2...
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I was just told I have genital herpes & have a LOT of questions:
1) Is there a way 2 know how gave it 2 whom ?
2) Will this mean I can NEVER have unprotected sex again ?
3) Can I NEVER have oral sex again ?
4) I had NO clue anything was wrong until 2 days later. (I thought it was from rubbing) Did I maybe have it before & not know it. I have been with the same partner for 11 years & had a moment of weakness.
5) The person I was with had red dots on him after we were together & we both thought it was just from rubbing ? Was he a carrier ? His spots are gone & I am still with mine ?
6) The person I was with is a fireman & emt, does he need 2 tell his boss he might be infected ?
7) I am on Zovirax ~ 5 days 5 pills a day then 1 pill 2 times a day after. Can I take all 5 pills @ once or do I have 2 take them thru out the day ? & are there side effects ?
Should the person I was with be on these pills also ? He was just told & has not been 2 the doctor yet, could he not even have it ?
9) If I have genital herpes does that mean I cant kiss someone & exchange sliva ?
Someone please help me I am FREAKING out big time.. ThanksView Thread
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I just found out that my son's girlfriend was diagnosed with type 1. I would like to know if my family and i are at risk, for instance, if she has a cold sore on her mouth and she has dinner with us. Am i supposed to be worried. I don't mean to come on as being prejudice or any thing of the sort. I support my son and his girlfriend and i will help them out in any way that i can. I just want to know more on this disease. If i was to share, say, like a cigarette with my son, am i at risk? I don't want to hurt anybody's feeling, i'm just a little confused right now.View Thread
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