I agree -- right after going past your climax start stroking again as soon as you're sure that touching your penis won't provoke an ejaculation. You may just be waiting too long before starting up again.View Thread
Well, we're all different and can react in different ways. But maybe you just need to do some more training and not expect results immediately. Like the rest of our bodies our penises need to have consisent training to reach their full potential.
An interesting post -- gotta admit I had to use a search engine to find out what 'gooning' is. Apparently one begins to 'goon' after edging for such a long time that one enters a hypnotic state where one is only a hard, erect penis and the life support system for the hard, erect penis. You're only a tap away from an exploding ejaculation but with patience and care you can keep on edging and in a hypnotic state for quite a while.
One guy wrote elsewhere about getting into this state prior to working out at the gym and found that it made him a powerhouse while lifting.
I've done edging and have enjoyed it -- but the problem I find with such Extreme Masturbation is that it just takes us so much time. While I do believe a good session should last half an hour or so at least I find that much longer sessions can be hard to fit in with all the rest of life (which is too bad, I know).
But the idea of getting into a hypnotic state as part of masturbation is fascinating: you are penis,and penis is you, and there is just nothing else. The idea is a real turn-on!View Thread
Yup, this has happened to me in the past when I was busy and not giving my penis enough attention. Sounds like some regular masturbation in addition to your being sexually active could take care of the situation.
Movement of stool out the intestines will exert pressure on the prostate and surrounding area -- I found that when I was over-busy the semen would come out right after a bowel movement while I was still on the toilet. I increased my schedule of penile productivity and the problem has never returned.
And by the way -- some additional masturbation might help you with your stress at the same time.View Thread
You might have a look at the book 'the Multi-Orgasmic Man' which is available through Amazon.com. I went through that book and did the exercises and learned there about separating orgasm from ejaculation. It worked for me, and I'll admit that the 'homework' was really quite enjoyable in itself!
Good luck, and please come back with more questions as they come along. Won't always have the answers but it's good to keep talking.View Thread
Hi, Jonnyd123 -- now I'm not going to say that masturbation is the cure to everything, but I'm wondering if you took a step backward from having relations to another person and just focused on yourself for a little while if that might help.
I'm thinking about extended masturbation sessions of over an hour, slow and relaxing where you really get to understand and enjoy your own body. And getting to feel confident about what it is capable of doing. And perhaps even doing some relaxation exercises, meditation or self-hypnotherapy (resources about those things are on-line). And practice separation of orgasm from ejaculation -- it's possible to have one or more delightful and gentle orgasms before you have one where you let go in ejaculation.
Maybe you're familiar with all that, I don't know because you haven't mentioned it. But perhaps if you took matters into your own hands you could discover that your penis is really your ally, a buddy who can be depended upon to carry on later when you're with your gf. And these are just my guy-to-guy thoughts, I'm not a professional. Could be worth a try. Good luck!View Thread
I'm glad that you are doing something, if only by yourself. That could be a start.
Being overly busy can be a problem for many of us and sometimes the things which are really the most important to us come in towards the end of our priorities when we make choices of how our time is spent. And I would agree that it can be difficult to work things in, especially if there's any reluctance. I know sometimes I'll avoid or delay doing something which I know is for my own good if I sense some sort of threat or have some uneasiness about it.
I do wish for a good outcome for both of you!View Thread
Hi, An_250414. Take some time to read some of the posts here, articles written buy guys who may have a situation similar to yours. We're all different, yes, but there are many more people like each of us out there than any of us might imagine.
People sexually attracted to both sexes are bisexual. I believe that all of us are basically bisexual but during our growing up and over the years the balance of M to F attraction usually has one becoming dominant, sometimes to the point where a person denies any of the other.
It can take some work sorting things out and finding out who you really are. But the journey is worth the effort. I'm sure you're a fine person; you just need to find out where you fit in with all the rest of us. Good luck!View Thread