Elle0317, I wish you had given a third option for voting: it depends on the female or male as each can be hornier than the other. And that imbalance in sex drive can shift back and forth within the same couple. One more thing to make life interesting and relationships both complicated and fulfilling once adjustments are made.View Thread
You have a situation which is both difficult as it is unusual. I can see where your boyfriend has anxieties about the loss of a child that it could impact his physical ability to have another.
You describe your closeness and how wonderful that is but I can understand how your lack of physical intimacy could make things somewhere between difficult and less than perfect. I bet there could be a good counselor out there who could help you both work with your feelings, yours as well as his. Best of wishes on making things better for you both! Life's too short not to try to do what we can.View Thread
Hey, nothing to be embarrassed about -- I can see where having a couple come up and play with your equipment could be definitely arousing. And in your dream I bet it felt good, so why would you want to discourage them? Thanks very much for opening up and telling us -- that's the sort of open discussion here which will help us all grow in our understanding of ourselves and our sexuality. It's not always easy to do so but the benefits can be huge.
What you describe is reminding me of a practice I read about a while ago, unfortunately I don't remember its name. It's where a stable married couple takes a teen-age boy into their bed for the purpose of introducing him to sexual activity in a calm, loving and understanding situation. The boy's parents would have approved, and quite possibly the two couples involved are friends. Imagine for a moment how pleasant it could be to have an "aunt and uncle" thoughtfully initiate you into the ways of loving sex -- kind of mind-blowing, isn't it? It would just be for a time or two before the young fellow is trained and seasoned to go out to his own age group with confidence. Imagine how nice it would be to be starting your sex life with others with confidence, knowing what you were doing and a pretty good idea of what's involved in making the other person happy and enjoying what you're doing.
So perhaps your dream is a flash into of a world that could be and could be good to have. Thanks again for telling us.View Thread
Hey, it can only take a couple hours after shooting a load before our equipment is rarin't to go again so it isn't surprising that you would have an ejaculation of any kind the day after having masturbated.
You say you had an amazing dream which caused you to ejaculate: wanna tell the guys what it was about, or is it something hard to pin down in memory at this point? Dreams can be a fascinating way of our mind cleaning themselves out and defragging themselves. Can't say that I can remember the partticular content of any of them but I've had some, to be sure.View Thread
I do believe I had one, just one wet dream years ago -- I was quite young and surprised by the whole thing: how was I going to get that mess cleaned up?
The whole thing is just too far back in memory for me to be able to tell you anything about the dreams involved. I do have a theory about sexy dreams as I do wake up sometimes with a 'major rager' and need relief before going back to sleep: it may be either that sexy thoughts are causing the dream which causes arousal; or it may be physical arousal which in turn causes the sexy dream. Could be either way, I don't know.
I know one time a number of years ago I went for a period of three weeks to a month without an ejaculation in order to try to trigger a wet dream -- just thought it would be interesting and fun. Turned out that I gave in without one happening and the only result for me was that I missed the chance to have a number of good releases of semen.
I just know that usually I probably cum too often for build-up to cause such a thing to happen for me. I believe that every hard-on has a pull date, and that pull date is today!View Thread
Sometimes I get informed; sometimes I get aroused. Sometimes I can pass along some information that might be useful to another guy.
It's all a good thing. I never know what I'll find here or how I'll feel when I log in. If I ever write anything which either gives you a helpful idea or gets you semi-hard I feel I've done something worthwhile!View Thread
Rubbing your penis up and down in bed must be sort of an ancient reflex for I'm sure a lot of us got started that way. But I have heard that over time that activity could be harmful -- better just to lie on your back, take your penis loosely in your hand and start stroking. And at age 24 even a couple of times a day would not be unusal or harmful.
I say to hold your penis loosely -- you say you haven't had sex yet and I imagine that you mean with someone else, since masturbation, beating off, whatever you want to call it is a type of sex -- since a woman's vagina is not going to be as tight as your hand and you don't want to be training yourself to expect always to have something tight surrounding your penis while you are having sexual enjoyment. Also, even though your hard penis may feel strong and mighty it is still something which can be injured by rough handling. And hurting yourself is definitely something to avoid.
And one more thing -- I would suggest you work at finding a variety of ways to excite yourself while masturbating. Don't do it exactly the same way all the time. You need to be able to adjust to different situations -- or people -- over time and you need to be skilled at pumping to ejaculation in a variety of ways.
Good luck, keep at it and make sure you enjoy. And maybe you'll stop having thoe times when you feel bad about doing it -- it's a good activity, something which men do.View Thread
At your request I did look up hypospadias and have a general idea of what you're dealing with -- but it's not clear to me how that condition impacts your ability to maintain erections. Sounds to me that a good talk with a physician who you'd be comfortable with would be a good place for some guidance.
You describe having a loving wife -- sounds like she is there to help you and perhaps there's a place where you both could go together to get some help, some sort of guidance and assistance. The fact that you want to do more with what you have puts you in company with a lot of us. And while we're working to make things better or fuller it's great to get all the pleasure and satisfaction out of what you have -- your marriage and all that.View Thread
When I hear about a guy having erection problems I wonder about his age and general health. And does he wake up with a hard penis most mornings. If we knew a little more it might be easier to discuss.
However, most of us are not MDs and can only talk about our experience. If a guy is having hard-on problems it could be a good idea to talk with one's regular doctor about it to see if there is some underlying physical condition. As FCL suggesets it could be a nerves about performance -- that can go a guy in in no time!
If there's no underlying medical reason for the lack of hard-ons there are some things which maybe we here could suggest. Let us know more about the situation and maybe we can offer some suggestions.
Take care and good luck! Life's too brief not to enjoy one's sexuality as an important part of it.View Thread