Great topic, first of all And this discussion, just proves that there are different strokes for different strokes. It also displays the double standard between men and women. Many of the posts say that men are more apt for "just sex" and women want a relationship before sex. We all know the scenario...a girl has sex on the first date, the guy goes and brags to all of his friends. They go out again and if nothing comes of the relationship, she is a "tramp". Which is completely unfair to label someone, she could have just realized that guy wasnt the one for her. Reverse that and if they have sex on the first date and the girl is into the guy and he is not, he is deemed a "player". Unfortunately, they could have reacted the same way, he not being into her. Yet his label is not nearly as harsh as hers. As a matter of fact, his is glorified in male lore; music, movies, etc.
As adults, we should be able to make an educated decision on what is best for us and our relationships. If you want to have relations after your first date, go for it. If one person believes it should wait, they need to explain that to the other, instead of just shutting them down.
Honestly, if you lose respect for a women for having sex with you on your first date, as i recall it takes two to tango. So if your going to crown someone a "tramp", don't forget one for yourself.View Thread
So you'd rather force each other into marriage, just for the sake of being able to have sex? Marriage is a huge commitment and if your religion is that imporatant to you, you probably already knew that. I dont know what country your from or what your customs may be, but to me it seems like your looking at marriage as just a way to have sex.
You said that if he doesnt propose to you after graduation, that you'll break up with him? So what im hearing is that he isnt that important to you and you can just cast him aside...So if he does propose to you after you graduate and 5 years down the line does something wrong, will you just cut and run? Marriage is about compromise, you two have a lot to talk about before you even think about getting married. As far as im concerned you need to really evaluate your relationship, sex should be the least of your conernsView Thread
I am the same age as you are and even though i havent had my T levels checked, based off of my symptoms im pretty sure i have low T as well...it sucks. I came across an article in a mens fitness magazine, that showed a study where Vitamin D was shown to help raise Testosterone markers when taken for 6 months. Their recommended dosage was 3000 IU a day. But like anything else, consult your Doctor. I started to take vitamin D about a month ago, i havent really noticed any changes as of yet.View Thread
I didnt read every post in this tread, but i did read something about you living your life to please everyone else, i can relate. There is a book called Anxious to Please, there was a brief article written on webmd.com about it. Its a great book, it breaks down why "we" are nice people and how we get taken advantage of, but it also gives you the tools to potential over come it. The main emphasis is there is a huge difference between being nice and being kind. its ok to look out for yourself, at the end of the day, your the only person who matters.View Thread