I have always masturbated through marriage, and I think most guys do and for a lot a reasons; like you, we are at a point in my wife's health where sex is infrequent at best; even when we were much more active, I still found the need to jack off just about every week; most women do not need or want sex as often as men; I actually found by masturbating I "calmed" myself and reduced the urgency of my sex urges and was a better, more sensitive lover;
So keep jacking off; find alternative positions for sex if you can; my experience found that when my wife first experienced pain during intercourse, the fear of that pain was as much a deterrent to her sex drive as was the reality of pain; so I don't know that you will find any completely satisfactory answer to your problem;
Good look buddy; as for me, I will keep the lotion and tissues handy...View Thread
no i have never shaved down there....interesting thought tho...might help; probably if i shed a few pounds that might help more; i am a pretty husky guy and my fat thighs probably sweat extra and keep the moisture in the folds; perfect for the itch to develop; i bought a pack of boxer briefs and liked them; but after a long day, still had aching balls on occasion; i wondered about wearing my jock strap on extra hot days;holds my balls up but no brief elastic in my crotch/thighs;
course i would miss the fly when i went to take a piss...lol
thanks for responding; i do freeball at home some myself; nothing like itView Thread
this may be a dumb question to you guys, but I am always curious about how many guys prefer one kind of underwear over the other and if there is any reason; i wore boxers for years until i started having aching in my testicles; now i wear briefs (tighty whiteys); which take care of the aching, but i get a lot of jock itch, especially in the summer; i confess i miss the "freedom" of boxers; wondered if anyone would care to share their underwear preference or advice...View Thread
I think its true that there are a lot of men who have similar feelings; I don't pretend to understand why; in my 50s also and have had similar feelings for some time; a few years ago one of my married buddies and i jacked each other off after a night of beer, football and hot tub ( our wives were out of town shopping); we did that a few more times and eventually sucked each other off; we struggled with feeling guilty and fear of getting caught and eventually stopped; when he was transferred out of town that sort of took care of things;
I still have thoughts of men, but after that experience i would be hesitant to try again; I definitely do NOT think you should talk about it with your wife; there is no way she could understand...it would only hurt her and make her feel inadequate and cause her to be suspicious for the rest of your lives;
if you do decide to act out on your feelings, only do so with another married guy who has as much to lose as you;
didn't mean to write so much; i have other thoughts on this; you can write back if you want to hear;View Thread
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