I am married and in my late 40's. I have always been attracted to men. I told my wife about it before we got married and I chose to marry. I do not regret that decision, but the last few years these feelings have really surfaced in a huge way. I have acted out with a few guys, i.e. touched them, mutual j/o and some oral. I feel bad about doing those things, but it is like I opened a pandoras box and now I want to do more. How does one reconcile being happily married, with kids and no desire to lose that with the desire to want men. I am having a very hard time with this. Any thoughts on what will help?View Thread
Thanks Doogood and the others for you thoughts. There is no way my wife will allow others into the bedroom and no way she would be comfortable with me doing anything with someone else. So what I have done in the past is wrong, but it has been a long time since then. I guess it is just difficult because it feels so alone. My wife knows I have these feelings, but I do not discuss it much with her. She doesn't understand and if we discuss it she just feels inadequate. I understand that, but it feels like I am so alone at times. I have shared this with straight friends, but inevitably they end up distancing themselves from me (or I distance myself, not sure). I don't share it with anyone anymore. Doogood, do you look at guys on the internet to satisfy your urges?View Thread
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