Well my friend's example I used says it all. He told me that she says she just doesn't care about anymore. I find lot' s of guys like that who still enjoy sex but wives just plain don't care anything about it. It's not about foreplay cause that won't help if a woman isn't open to the idea of it in the first place. Foreplay helps you because the idea of sex appeals to you, see what I mean?Many women just lose it after age 45 -50 but expect men to just forget their urges. Some even get mad when they catch you jacking off. LOL What are we guys supposed to do with our selves in a situation like that? I think this is a major factor in the growth of masturbation clubs and stuff like that . It's just guys seeking an outlet really.View Thread
It's great to hear you have a healthy libido. I speak not only for myself but most of the men I know and all tell me their wives lost interest in sex and what's worse most get mad if they see us looking at pictures or glancing too long as they say. yet they aren't interested in a tangle at all.
I know one guy who hasn't had sex with his wife more than 4-5 times in the last 15 years. This is a tragedy in my view because sex is part of being human. It's as natural as breathing.
As I said in the above posts many are secretly finding jack buddies and other outlets for their sexual energy. As I've paid more attention to this issue I find a great deal more men between 45-60 doing this and most is because they've been abandoned at home combined with the fact that I think lots of guys just like jacking off together.
Glad you have an open mind about men playing with each other that 's really great because it happens a lot.View Thread
Until you sort this out be sure to continue to masturbate. It's important to the prostate gland to keep it emptied and healthy and besides it feels great too. What you describe here is why so many men are finding jack buddies and relieving their stress this way. Personally I don't see anything wrong with doing what most of us did as kids anyway. I sometimes think women just don't understand male sexuality at all and so many women reach a point in life where they consider sex as something they just don't care about anymore.View Thread
Sure I understand your intent here and appreciate it. I masturbate an average of two maybe three times in a week maybe. I have enjoyed it since age 12 . I think it's healthy for men and some research suggests that men who masturbate have fewer prostate issues. It's a win/win.View Thread
I've known more women that did not masturbate at all . I think women do it less than guys and it depends upon upbringing as well. Here in the heart of the Bible Belt I encounter a great deal of resistance to sex and sexuality as pleasure. Women are much more restrained. It's not that they don't like it or want it they just won't express it like it's a taboo or something. I've known one squirter in my life. As for squirting it's great but overrated too. I'll settle for a very orgasmic girl any day.View Thread
Johnwad I think it is and I know it's happening everyday. I know females just lose interest in sex all together and some never had a lot of interest to start with. Males usually come equipped with a much more intense need to "get off" than women do. With us our penis rules day and night. It's nice that she is willing to offer you assistance. I'll go ahead and tell you most women I've known didn't like giving HJ's but did it cause I wanted it and that did take a little pleasure away from it for me. My hunch is that this is something you really need to have a heart to heart talk with your wife about. Many married people struggle with this. I know a couple right now who never have sex more than maybe twice a year if that due to her lack of interest. I can also say many people find sexuality a taboo subject and it's as though the act itself is dirty. It's actually beautiful IMO. I'm just the opposite since I think we should be uninhibited with regards to discussing it. It's also possible she has a severe hormone deficiency depressing her interest as well. Age is cruel to the body but fortunately we have more choices than our parents did and a more open society in which we can talk about it. As always I'm more than happy to relate my experience with it .View Thread
Have you considered the addition of toys like the prostate massagers and things like that? There are many quality instruments out there that you'd love.They can be extremely pleasurable and since she's not a prude she might enjoy using them with you. Males need all the help with the prostate they can get and my how good it feels too ! I'm just trying to think of stuff to do within your marriage that will help.View Thread
I know where you're coming from my friend. It seems in all marriages that women just have less interest in sex as the years go by. If you have kids it's even worse. Women don't understand male sexuality at all nor do we understand theirs which is much more linked to emotional well being than ours. With us it's about our cocks and that's it, we love pleasure and the more the better as far as we're concerned. Presently I am single so I don't have the marriage aspect of it to worry about but I have been there so I know whereof I speak. Many men in the Fifth decade are just like you. Since you're married I don't advise any infidelity I believe that's just wrong but I also think it's wrong for either one of the two parties to just ignore the needs of the other .It's something that requires a lot of communication between the two of you. In the meantime I suggest plenty of masturbation in a variety of ways remembering not to overdo it. When I was married I often jacked off in front of my wife I enjoyed the audience and I think she liked watching me do it. I sure enjoyed doing it as well. On that subject many other guys have taken on a third in the form of another woman or in some cases a jack buddy to help with the tension. As I said any of that should be discussed with your wife before you do it. It should not be, but even in a long marriage the area of sex and sexuality is still a subject that many just can't bring themselves to talk about. From my own perspective if I had suggested to my ex that I wanted a jack buddy she would have shot me dead, but for me that was a good solution. LOL As for whether or not you're normal? Yes you are in every way sir. I don't know if any of this helps or not but I'm happy to lend my perspective on it.View Thread