Make sure you are pleasuring her without your penis. You are five years older than you were before and erections don't get better with age.
What usually is said here is that all those years of masturbation makes it difficult to stay hard in a vagina; masturbation=more friction. That was not my experience. Until age 62 I had good erections and a very sensitive penis; tending more to PE than ED unless intercourse was regular.
Fatigue and stress impact erections and not much of an erection is needed to orgasm from masturbation.View Thread
My wife had one of the worlds greatest vaginas and had multiple vaginal orgasms. Her first choice is always my penis. She use to like to make love for at least an hour so anything strenuous was avoided. Fingers were used frequently. She found slow, shallow penetration particularly enjoyable and asked for it. One of her favorite positions was on the side, facing each other,no weight to bear an either partner can move.View Thread
Some men think about their pleasure. Nothing to worry about. If you are thinking your partner's pleasure and what the think of you as a lover, it can cause anxiety.
You find someone you like and you are looking for more than a one night stand and your partner didn't enjoy your love making. You lasted too long or not long enough. Something you did upset your partner. Lots of things to worry about.
Your penis doesn't get performance anxiety it is your brain.View Thread
You answered your own question. You have performance anxiety.
When you get in bed take your time. Do whatever you were doing before for a while until your erection returns. A couple should be able to make love without a penis. When the penis becomes less important there is less stress.
I had the opposite problem. I would get so aroused that I would have PE issues. When my girlfriend was open to receiving oral sex or manual stimulation, my arousal state would be allowed to go from 11 to 7 and intercourse was possible.View Thread
He loves you and he knows making love to you causes you pain, it will definitely effect his interest. If he's getting older and stressed it will also effect his ability to perform. Accommodation is a lot less of a turn on then knowing he his going to make you feel good.
Are the two of you not interested in any other form of sexual activity beside intercourse?View Thread
As long as your partner is ok with you taking your time, you can experience some really delicious near orgasms to the degree you don't even care if you orgasm. I've fallen asleep doing this.
If you take it slow and use a lot of lube, neither partner gets sore.
My first partner usually didn't orgasm from intercourse, but enjoyed it and was willing to please me because I had already pleased her.
My wife will orgasm repeatedly for more than hour from any kind of stimulation, but prefers intercourse. I need to be able to last until she is sated. If I get too close I withdraw and switch to manual stimuation. The longer I can last the easier it is to maintain control and a brief pause is enough to bring me back.View Thread
An above penis is important if you want a career in porn, otherwise not so much. Any woman who specifies a size requirement is immature and ignorant. A large penis is more likely to cause discomfort than please. Before I met my wife she had experienced large and the accompanying discomfort. My average was the fit she wanted.
I wouldn't mind having another inch, to get more penetration in positions where it would be helpful, but that's more about pleasing myself than my partner.View Thread
Work on pleasing your partner without your penis then work on getting your penis under control. Sex three times a day is going to give you more of an opportunity to work on your problem than once every two weeks. Your penis needs to get familiar with being in a vagina. Unless you want to diminish the experience through creams and drugs, you should avoid medical help.
If your partner is ok with being brought to orgasm without a penis and really enjoys sex, you will work it out. Otherwise, you are doomed. How is she going to feel when you won't be able to get it up or she is unable to orgasm through intercourse.
If you can pleasure her without your penis, it becomes less important, less anxiety and more patience..
I've been there before: 1. Give your partner orgasms 2. Recognize when you are going to orgasm and stop stimulation until you feel you have some control. 3. Sometimes an orgasm in inevitable, have it, and try again when you are ready. Each orgasm should take more time than the previous one. .View Thread
I would lubricate the condom inside and outside, put a plastic sandwich bag over the condom, arrange the blanket to be like a vagina and simulate intercourse. Way better than my hand. I could fall asleep after orgasming and not worry about a messView Thread
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