Michelle couldn't have said it better. Listen to her. There is a lot more to sex than your penis. I didn't realize that until later in life. Of course, I didn't have WebMd or a good repore with my father about sex. His idea of sex was if she has a hole you can put it in. If she got off "ok", if not it's still "ok". I got mine. Girth is around the base of your penis, Length is from the scrotal sac to the head. I seen a program on a prime cable station about some very high priced Las Vagas ladies of the evening. They were having a discussion about size. Quite a few liked the smaller penises, because they could swallow them better and give the man more pleasure. I've only been able to have one woman swallow me. OMG it was great. I'm just normal sized. PORN IS NOT NORMAL SEX. Just because you see little Suzie Hooker swallow a monster doesn't mean every woman can or wants to. Use your brain. Your hands, fingers and tongue will work a whole lot better then just slamming it in her.
P.S. Sex toys are for both of you to enjoy. G Whiz, I miss my man whore days. LOLView Thread
Sorry you married a selfish man and yes this is the place to ask about this. It's not just a man's board. Viagra may or may not help your husband. It maybe a psychological or a physical problem, but until your husband is evaluated by your doctor, you can't be sure. I can tell you Viagra can help get it up and also help sustain it. It's a perscription medication and has to have a doctor sign for it.
As for him just getting it up and just sticking it in, that's selfish and stupid. There is more to a woman's body and sex than just catching his semen. Lube only works if you have time to put it in properly and your stimulated. He needs to think of you when your having sex together. It's not "here's my hard penis, SLAM."
Tell him what you want. If he's not smart enough to listen, then he's not smart enough to get any. You need yours as well as he needs his. I don't know how long you have been together, but partners need to talk to each other about anything. If you can't now, push it. He's only less of a man if he doesn't try to be a better lover. If he doesn't try, then he's not a man. ED shouldn't end a relationship, but not trying to get things better will.
I'm so glad to be insulted by such an esteemed person. I never claimed to be an expert or a doctor. The lady wanted some responses and IF you thought about what I said, you would have seen I kept it simple because I don't know her history or what she calls a lot of blood. She didn't give a medical history or a complete detailed account of her sexual encounter. As you said if it were appendicitis or gal bladder, she won't be online asking questions. She'd still be on the floor screaming or on her way to the hospital. I don't disagree with anything you said to her, but next time I suggest you think about what your saying to a poster. I've worked a lot of E.R.'s, squads, and been deployed on a few U.S. NAVY ships. I'm not about tell someone here they don't know what there talking about. I don't know everything and I know this.DO YOU.
A couple of thoughts: 1. You started to get the big "O" and your cycle started with the uterus contracting. 2. He nicked you in an area you couldn't see and the abdomen pain was a "refered" pain. A pain cause one place, but felt some where else. 3. He was using his fingers while working and a fingernail nicked you inside.
You said he was going to town. He needs to slow down and enjoy. Don't let this turn you off to his attentions. There is no better place to worship a woman than at the Y.
Masturtbation doesn't lower your sperm count, but it decreases the amount of sperm you have to ejaculate. Sounds like double talk doesn't it.
A sperm count is the product of a lab test. To have the test done, you abstain from sexual release for 3 day prior to test. Then you have a sexual release and catch it in a cup. The ejaculate is then evaluated and the sperm is counted.
We produce only so much sperm per day. If you masturbate daily, your not allowing your body to build up sperm to allow for a big "load." It only reduces the amout of ejaculate released, because it only has so much to release. As we produce sperm, it's stored in the epididymis (that lumpy cord on your testicles).
If you want the big loads, you have to allow for the build up of semen. Remember it only takes one sperm to make a baby.
I'm a 50 year old man and your bf is an horse's behind. I self pleasure myself, but when it comes to my gf, I'm all in. Your willing, but he would rather stroke himself. The doctors says nothing physically wrong, and he doesn't want to get therapy.
Your not the problem and your not nagging. Your a sexually active woman and he's suppost to be the one helping you become sexually satisfied. Wasn't that one of the reason you moved in.
The reason he has no sex drive is because he's playing with himself and relieveing his sexual tension. DAILY. Tell him to stop playing with himself and play with you. Even if I can't get it up to par, I still take care of my gf.
Sorry, but it drives me crazy when a man doesn't want to be a man for his woman and vice versa. By the way, my opinion, dating is 2 people living apart and going out. Moving in together isn't dating anymore. It's committment without paper. If your still seeing other people, it's room mate with benefits. I have a live-in committed relationship with my gf and I would do about anything to keep her. Again just my opinion. Good LuckView Thread
I have to agree with both FCL & Hairyd. I have been on both sides of the discussion. I have given & received prostate exams and given gyn exams both for professional and personal reasons. You can not be nearly as caring when you do it professionally. I would have been in jail or the crap kicked out of me if I would have kissed and stroked my patients. I really don't want a bj or hj from my doctor while giving me a prostate exam. My ex-wife was doing a prostate massage one time while giving me a bj. I couldn't move for a minute or 2 afterwards, due to the intense orgasm. Yea, I like it from my partner. I tolerate it from my doctor. fcl: my gf really likes my exams better than her gyno. hairyd: I have to ask. Your urologist is a big handed guy, isn't he. (sorry, had to throw it out there)(lol) Good Luck and enjoyView Thread
I would suggest that you tell your massage therapist that you have noticed the difference in the last 3 time and tell him you liked it. Then tell him if he has anymore techniques to make you feel better, you would like to know about them and would be open to try them. Your not asking him to do anything sexual, but in a round about way you are if that is he's goal.
I know if I'm giving a massage and it's just for a massage, it's a lot different than one to evolve in to a sexual encounter. I'm not a massage therapist, but I have given medical massages. My ex-partners and current gf can tell you it's different.
Don't be embarressed, if anything your massage therapist has heard it many times, if they are doing there job properly. They are touching you in some private places. You are letting a strange person touch the small of your back, your buttocks, and inner portion of your legs. That is personnel and can be a turn on.
Also remember it will change your relationship with your therapist if you do have sex with him. That can be good or bad, but it will change. It's no longer a profession service for massage therapy. It's a personal sexual relationship or a professional sexual service. There really isn't an in between.
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