My bf and I have been dating for over a yr. and when we first got together we had sex every day, sometimes 2x a day. But about 4 mths after we were together our sex life went down hill fast. He has no problem masterbating and often does it daily after he tells me he's not in the mood for sex, which I find very confusing. I know because we live together and he waits until I go to bed to pleasure himself. I also masterbate but don't find satisfaction from it even when using toys. I find myself getting very frustrated because he says he could go without sex because he doesn't enjoy it and can't get an erection because of performance issues even with pills. Dr.s have told him it's a confidence thing but he refuses therapy and now I am just unhappy and find our relationship to be very strained. How can I be satisfied and stop nagging him for sex and let him enjoy masterbation without being resentful of the fact that he just wants that to be his method of satisfaction instead of me. My sex drive seems to have increased dramatically over the last yr and I don't know why. I just want us both to be happy. BTW he is 44 and I am 40.View Thread
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