11 months ago my wife had a hysterectomy, leaving her one ovary. Since she doctor told her she could resume sexual activity 8 weeks after the surgery, she still refuses to have intercourse with me. She will ask me to masturbate her to climax or go down on her, and she said all that feels great still, but she still refuses to do anything sexually to me. What should a man do when his wife refuses to have sex with him? She's 45 years old; I'm 47, married for 16 years, with two kids. I'm getting very frustrated here. It's been over a year since we last had intercourse and I am missing the intimacy very much. I thought I was being very patient, but now I am second guessing myself ThanksView Thread
Update: We did have a talk about this. She said she actually hasn't been feeling must in her vulva while we have been haveing me masturbate her - more of just feeling a pressure of some one touching her. She claimed me giving her oral was more pleasurable, but not quite what it was before surrgery. Unfortunately we didn't come to any agreement on how to procede and how to make this better for both of us.View Thread
Thankyou HariyD for your repsonse. My wife has never given me oral, she said she gave it to previous boyfriends, it was something she didn't enjoy doing, and decided (before we started dating) that she wouldn't do it again.Eight years ago or so I tried to get her to talk more about it, and she wouldn't volunter any info. As for hand jobs, she claims her arms and hands get too tired way before I reach a climax, so she rarely will try any more. We had gone to marriage couseling for three years, with some improvment. The marriage couselor suggested my wife in particular should see a sex theropist(sp?), but my wife wouldn't follow through with it. I have suggested lube, and have it handy and I will try asking her again to try using it. She is scheduling a doctors appointment for July, but with our regular family doctor, not the GYN who did the hysterectomy, but I will suggest a follow up visit with him also to see if she is willing to do so,View Thread
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