I'm not sure if this is the proper place to post about this or not, but I had a question about birth control. For the record, I don't believe in using birth control as a regular occurrence-- I think that normally speaking you shouldn't.
Here's my situation: I am unmarried and a virgin. (Male) I am getting married in January to a girl from New Zealand (yes, congratulations to me ). The unfortunate thing is that she will have to remain in New Zealand while we wait for her green card. The US embassy doesn't want her visiting the US in the mean time. So, we don't think it would be a good idea to have kids during that time.
She does NOT like the idea of messing with her hormones at all. That leaves us with a few options that I know of: condoms, or spermicide. She is a virgin as well so I don't think an IUD would work.
My question is, any suggestions? We wish we didn't have to use ANYTHING since we are both virgins and it will be a special time (depending on when her period falls, we may not have to the first time.) With regard to spermicide, is there any bad effects? I want to absolutely stay away from ANYTHING that could negatively affect a baby in the even that it does not work.
I have posted on here before asking advice about a mild case of phimosis, if I'm spelling. I'm getting married soon so I've been trying to get it figured out. From my research, I've found out that you can often stretch it, possibly with the help of a steroid cream.
So, I bought some hydrocortisone and tried stretching it with that, but I didn't do it very consistently and thought it wasn't very powerful probably, so I went to see a doctor.
Here's the problem. He had NEVER HEARD OF STRETCHING it. He simply said circumcision was the way to treat it. I told him about using a steroid and he said in 30 years he'd never heard of it. He said I could try it, so he gave me a prescription of.... exactly the same thing, hyrdocortizone 1%.
So my question is, will this help, or is it a fruitless endeavor? Suppose I spend 15 minutes per evening trying to stretch it-- will I see any results?
If not, how can I find a doctor that knows about options other than circumcision? I really don't want to go that drastic route.
Thanks! I should say I'm a 21 year old virgin.View Thread
I thought I had posted a few days ago but it apparently disappeared so if you all are seeing this twice then sorry. I posted about a year ago about what to do with a relatively tight foreskin. It is retractable but uncomfortably tight when erect. Someone suggested using some type of cream to help stretch it but I have forgotten what type was recommended. Any advice?