Well I havent been on here in awhile, but I thought I would stop in and say hello...I know none of us here planned to be single parents, there are so many circumstances to it as well. I feel the term "single parent" has sort of a stigma, or it may just be me, to me it sounds negative.
So what is your story? What circumstances, life obstacles brought you where you are at?
Well Ill make this short lol Im 22 now, been on my own since I was 19years old. I was with my bf of 4 years, been through everything, and of course had our daughter. DB was in and out of jail from the start of our relationship, but life was just too complicated for him to handle..He was in and out of jail a total of 4 times now, he even missed the birth of our daughter. The fourth time came this past Feb(which seems like so long ago now) he got arrested again, and just got sentenced in June to prison for technically 8years, but will most likely be 5 1/2 to 6 years. It was quite a shock, and Im still coming to terms with it and all aspects..including I really am going to be a single parent to our daughter. Im scared because I want to give her the world, and everyday there is something in the way I must fight through.
You see DB may sound like a bad person, but there was more to our relationship than what seemed. He really was a good daddy when he was around and I miss him like crazy. I feel for him missing out on his daughters life, and I feel for my baby, not going to know her daddy.
So anyway thats my short story, I really did not anticipate any of this for me or my daughter, but this is where life has taken me. I wake up everyday, get baby girl to daycare get myself to work all day and then again at the end of the day. I do things I dont want to do, I cry, I scream sometimes, I get lonely, frustrated, but after all of that I remind myself Im not doing any of this for me, Im doing it for her. I cannot fall weak, i cannot say "I cant" Im tired I give up" when I know Im going to go to bed pray that same prayer and wake up and do it all over again. To show my daughter, anything is possible. You are your own worst enemy, I find my strength through God. This is by far one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do and it doesnt get any easier does it...well maybe when they are out of the house...lol I dunno....sorry this got way long....View Thread
I am the single parent who now 8 year child was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes 6 months ago. My life has since been turned upside down and inside out. However, life was it is no longer and there is nothing that anyone can do. My daughter was the best thing that ever happened to me. Her father left me as soon as he found out I was pregnant, I guess that was his true color, the one thing he never mentioned during his every 2 year visit was that DIABETES runs in his family. For any single parent who does not like their child's mother or father her one for you, he knew my daughter was in the PICU for 36 hours hooked up to machines to keep her alive. Believe it or not her father never showed up, and when he called me 6 weeks after she got out of the hospital, he told me the reason he did not come was because it was my fault.
I love my child with all my heart and soul, but at this point in our lives I truly feel that we are being punished. it just seems that with Type 1 diabetics when they are in the first year/year and a half it is very hard on their physical and mental well being. it takes a toll on the mind, body and everything in between. It is the hardest thing to see your child in so much pain every single day of her life. My child's pain increases my stress level and my pain level by about 100 million and that is no exaggeration.View Thread
I have a 2yr old with a married man. Yes, I know it was wrong for us to have an affair, but we now have a child. I ended the affair 1 1/2yrs ago when I FINALLY came to my senses. Hes a good dad for the most part. Our son, Jaylen is his only child. My problem is, Joe (Jaylens dad) lies probably 90% of the time. When we were "together" he cheated on me too (5yrs ago). I found out a few mths ago that hes supposedly having a baby with her. So now everytime he asks to change visitation days or if I invite him to be involved in an activity with Jaylen and he says hes busy the first thing I think is hes with "her". I dont love him anymore and this isnt jealousy. He just started working a few mths ago and this is the FIRST job hes had (longer then a few days) since I met him almost 6 yrs ago. His wife has supported him (apparently she dont care that he cheats and gets other women pregnant as she cant have kids). So I know hes a liar and I cant trust him but it aggravates me to NO end when I know hes lying when he wants to change his visitation days. He says hes "working" (he works with his brother) but on these "mysterious" days, he doesnt call to check on Jaylen, he only texts (which is one way I know hes lying about working). Jaylen has alot of medical issues and hes back and forth to the Dr and specialists so it makes me even angrier when hes not able to be there. I have let him come almost every night since Jaylen was born for us to bathe him and put him to bed together, but I cant stand seeing him everyday anymore. He filed paperwork through the courts to get court ordered visits even though I let him have Jaylen 2 days a week. I just started getting child support in Oct. Hes very selfish and I havent asked him for anything for Jaylen in a long time, but a few days ago I asked for a few diapers until I got paid and he said I had to "pay" the diapers back as he pays child support. Ive tried to ignore him and not argue, fight, etc. but I think he does/says things just make me mad. I have tried to tell him he cant come at night anymore, but then Jaylen gets upset at bedtime and cries for Daddy. So, im in a predicament and I know I got myself into this mess, I just dont know how to get out of it. Yes, we have messed around a few times since our "breakup" but I made it clear to him that im not doing it anymore as I know hes just using me. ANY suggestions on what to do????View Thread
After almost 9 years of marriage, my husband and I are splitting. I am actually moving into a 2 bedroom apartment with my 3 kids. 8 year old son, 3 year old son and my daughter will be 2 in August. I couldnt afford a 3 bedroom. So right now I plan on putting my boys in one room and then sharing with my daughter. At least that is the plan, I may end up sleeping on the couch/pull out bed.
So here is my main question, do I even bother taking her toddler bed to the new place? Every night she goes to her brothers' room and crawls up into their twin beds. I was thinking due to the lack space just bringing the full size bed and sharing it with her. I could bring both and see what happens. This means I have to put my dresser in storage and use her dresser for both of us since it will fit in the closet.
I am just so torn on what to do. I am moving into a place half the size of my current place so I have to get rid of a lot of stuff.View Thread
My ex- boyfriend and I have been broken up for about two months now. My heart is still broken, because I'm still in love with him. We have kids together, and we been through a lot in our relationship. He cheated on me multiple times, and I stayed with him. I loved him that's why I never left him, because I forgave him. He changed on me after our second child. He started being mean to me for no reason at all. All I did was love him. My friends got mad at me, because they said I looked like a fool letting him treat me so bad. But, I loved him, and I still do. We broke up, because he said he wasn't ready to settle down. It hurt me, because he decides this after three kids, and after so many years. I know I can do better than that, it just hurts. I didn't deserve that, and I'm trying to figure out why I got hurt so bad like that. I know I'm not perfect, but I was good to him. I thought I was getting a little better, but we work together and everytime I see him a piece of my heart breaks into pieces all over again. I don't want to be with him anymore I just still love him. It's painful when you love someone who treats you so bad. Some of my friends think I'm stupid for still loving him, but I can't help it. I've been with him half of my life. And in one instant my world just crumbled around me. The kids stay with me, and every since we broke up he doesn't come to see them anymore and they think its something I did. I will never say anything bad about their father to them. I just don't know what to tell them, and I don't know how to take the pain of them blaming me for him leaving.View Thread
I am a single mother of two children my daughter is 13 and my son is 12. I have been having lots of issues with both not respecting me or any adult in my house .it has cased problems in my relationships...My son gets so angry when I have a man in my life and he continues to make trouble and when I talk to him or punish him for things he tells me "mom I hate you" or "you dont love me". . he is seeind a counslor and it is not helping he is also on a mood stablizer for his outburst of anger. I just recently broke up with a guy on big reason was that my children would disrespect him... Im not sure what to do...the father of my children has not spent any time with them since christmas nor calls them anylonger. . . the kids blame me for everything. . .Im getting very tired and upset with all this and not sure what I need to do...I have ask them to be respectful towards all people and they just do not listen. . .Im pulling my hair out and not sure of what I can do. . . thanks for readingView Thread
This is for you single mothers......It helps to know Im not alone....have a good weekend.
Dear God, she seems to bear the weight of the world on her shoulders, but to carry it more lightly than I think I would. I see her balancing work and home, money and no money, friends who no longer make time to see her, and I send up a prayer for her. Her old friends have moved on with their lives, and in truth, she doesn't have much in common with them anymore. She is lonely, loving God. She would like company but doesn't want to make time for new relationships because her waking hours are already full: she is a mother. She walks when gas is too expensive for the car and forgoes new clothes so her child can have shoes. This is not how her life started out, but circumstances changed from her life of privilege to this life she embraces so fully. Her life is difficult and she seems so tired much of the time, but I am inspired by the love she has for her child. Give her the strength to put in long hours each day; the courage to face those who dismiss her with blaming and knowing nods; the ability to maintain her loving life at home; and the deepest knowledge in her heart that you love her.View Thread
I've used to be quite active on the WebMD message boards for various topics. But I am so elated that a single parents board now exists. I work full time, go to school part time and I have 3 year old daughter.
My house is upside down b/c I barely have the time or energy to maintain it. And unfortunately, I don't have the resource to utilize a cleaning service to maintain it. Especially when those funds can be used for other activities such as ballet and music lessons. My daughter will be able to begin the music program this summer and ballet when she turns 4.
Anywho, so happy, happy about this board. As parents, we can relate to other parents but more so to single parents.
in the life of a struggling single mother....ugh...lol I hope you all dont mind... This is pretty much a pity party vent, so please dont mind me. I just need to get this out because Im too emotional today. So I had to take Celeste to daycare again today. I left my house at 7:10 and trying to time the buses and everything right was hard since this is my first morning doing it(yesterday my morning started late) Well I ended up walking all the way there, it took me 50 minutes! Im so upset because this is really early, Im trying to figure out which would be the best times to leave plus I feel terrible for bringing Celeste out this early. This is not her routine, its cold and I dont feel its fair to bring her out and walk a flippen hour to take her to daycare so I can work all day. Im not enjoying this one bit. Im thinking what if it rains one morning, luckily summer is coming up so it will be getting warmer much warmer in fact. This is AZ the infamous hot weather. Im tired of being late to work, granite this is only my 2nd day of doing this, Im already frustrated with this. I know there are people who are worse off but times like this I feel like Im constantly struggling no matter what I do. Seems as though life tends to be a little easier for others and I feel like Im doing something wrong. What am I doing wrong, when I feel like Im trying so hard yet struggling to stay on top?? Im doing my best for my little Celeste but she only deserves the best, I dont feel like Im giving her a good chance. Im torn. I was venting yesterday too I feel like Im being pulled in all these different directions all the while trying to just be me. Im not sure I even know who that is anymore, but Im still so thankful because you know what..looking at Celeste even thinking about gives me hope, hope for a better tomorrow. Im thankful its the weekend, but I know there are obstacles Im going to have to tackle tomorrow too, I just keep going because I have no other choice. Ugh...View Thread
Once Cadance turns 1 on 3-27, I can officially change her last name to mine! It sounds like a lot of paperwork and maybe close to $200 but soo worth it! Her "sperm donor" as I call him has not seen her since she was 2 months old...I have not got any child support from him..He doesn't want to see her since that would involve seeing me so I think will all of this said, it would be soo worth it to change her last name. Anyone else done this?View Thread
My daughter is 11 months right now her dad and I do not have any formal arrangement set up. This is something I am going to start working on. So what arrangment do you all have with your childs father? Every other weekend? A couple nights a week? Please share your experiences!View Thread
Hi everyone. Welcome to the new Single Parent Exchange. I created this as a place where we can post questions we may not be comfortable asking on other exchanges. I hope here we can discuss the struggles and joys of being a single parent. Please feel free to join and invite all single parents you know! View Thread
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