I have a 2yr old with a married man. Yes, I know it was wrong for us to have an affair, but we now have a child. I ended the affair 1 1/2yrs ago when I FINALLY came to my senses. Hes a good dad for the most part. Our son, Jaylen is his only child. My problem is, Joe (Jaylens dad) lies probably 90% of the time. When we were "together" he cheated on me too (5yrs ago). I found out a few mths ago that hes supposedly having a baby with her. So now everytime he asks to change visitation days or if I invite him to be involved in an activity with Jaylen and he says hes busy the first thing I think is hes with "her". I dont love him anymore and this isnt jealousy. He just started working a few mths ago and this is the FIRST job hes had (longer then a few days) since I met him almost 6 yrs ago. His wife has supported him (apparently she dont care that he cheats and gets other women pregnant as she cant have kids). So I know hes a liar and I cant trust him but it aggravates me to NO end when I know hes lying when he wants to change his visitation days. He says hes "working" (he works with his brother) but on these "mysterious" days, he doesnt call to check on Jaylen, he only texts (which is one way I know hes lying about working). Jaylen has alot of medical issues and hes back and forth to the Dr and specialists so it makes me even angrier when hes not able to be there. I have let him come almost every night since Jaylen was born for us to bathe him and put him to bed together, but I cant stand seeing him everyday anymore. He filed paperwork through the courts to get court ordered visits even though I let him have Jaylen 2 days a week. I just started getting child support in Oct. Hes very selfish and I havent asked him for anything for Jaylen in a long time, but a few days ago I asked for a few diapers until I got paid and he said I had to "pay" the diapers back as he pays child support. Ive tried to ignore him and not argue, fight, etc. but I think he does/says things just make me mad. I have tried to tell him he cant come at night anymore, but then Jaylen gets upset at bedtime and cries for Daddy. So, im in a predicament and I know I got myself into this mess, I just dont know how to get out of it. Yes, we have messed around a few times since our "breakup" but I made it clear to him that im not doing it anymore as I know hes just using me. ANY suggestions on what to do????View Thread
I think that you should still try to get her to sleep in her own bed. Once a child sleeps with their parent(s) its VERY hard to get them to sleep alone. My sister has a 6yr old that she cannot break from sleeping with her because my nephew slept in her bed for so long because they didn't have room for a toddler bed. I know its hard to cram stuff from a house to an apt, but in the long run, she will be better off. Good Luck!View Thread
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