Hey there soory no one has responded sooner... This is a great place to find support. I am still a single mother and hopefully within the next few weeks I will be a single mother of 2! Sorry to hear things didn't work out I know how hard it can be to think of doing it alone. Hopefully you have some friends and family by your side to help out a little bit!View Thread
I would agree with mommycdg in saying that her choices do seem very selfish. I am a 22yr old single mom of DS(2)... so I know where she is coming from, but at the same time, I hardly ever go out or do anything. My mother tried to regulate who I had my son around and that caused problems, so I also know this can be a very touchy subject. The best advice that I can give is to not turn the issue on her... don't turn the conversation into an argument and try not to make her feel like she is a bad mother. She may be the best mother in the world but is making some selfish choices. talk to her about going out only once a week or so, and try to find times that someone else can keep the kids. ...
I wish you, your daughter, and the grandkids the best of luck! Hopefully it all gets figured out without any arguments, because thats another thing the kids don't need to witness!View Thread
I hope by now you hae already decided to stay in your daughters life because she needs you. You are her mommmy and no matter how sick or healthy you may be, she will never be able to replace you. I lost my dad at a young age and he made a bigger impact on me than my mom's fiance now. He gave me goals to strive for and made me know that I can accomplish anything. I think about him all the time and hope that i'm not letting him down. Stay in your daughter's life and she will be grateful for every second she had with you and every memory will be more than you could even comprehend. I wish you the best!View Thread
I had the same issue when my son was visiting with his father. I just went straight to the source and talk to him about our son. Asked him about how he plays and if there are other children around during their time together. I asked how he played with the other children and adv him on the behavioral problems after their visit together. He took some defense to it but I explained that I wasn't blaming him I just needed to know if there was a difference in parenting when they are together compared to when I have him.View Thread
Seems that doing it alone is something that is pretty easy to adjust to. I know for me i just had to remind myself that I'm all he has. That's what has kept me going on the worst days!... I agree, it would be nice to have a better half. My family tries to help but they all have their own problems and lives so its rare that they can do much. so can i ask how you ended up a single mom? what is your story?View Thread
Hey there, I can relate rather closely!. I am 21 and have one son. He is recently 2. I hate dropping him off to daycare, but i know i have to work to support us. I have had one serious relationship since his birth and when that failed, it hurt both of us. He had considered that man his daddy, since his daddy walked out on him. Ever since, I've been terrified of comitment for both myself and him. Are your son's fathers in their lives?View Thread
I am also a single mother. I have one son. He is almost 2 and his biological father hasn't played much of a role in his life at all. I dated a guy for over a year, he and I lived together and my son ended up calling him daddy which was fine at the time, but when he and i didn't work out, it became extremely difficult to explain to my DS. It broke his heart when his "daddy" left and now, I'm terrified to bring any other guys around. I don't want him getting attached to anyone thats not permanent!
Any advice on how to go about keeping my child safe from pain, but still find love for myself? I'm 21 and because of the pain I caused my son from one failed relationship, I'm ready to give up on love! HELP PLZ!!!View Thread
my son is almost 2 and his Sperm Donor had a court order for visitation and after about three months, decided he had more important things to do. Now he tells everyone that my DS isn't even his but will still call or text me randomly trying to see him. I dont allow it.
He had more than enough chances. He was in his life until he was 3months, then disappeared for a few months, begged his way back, i allowed him another chance, he walked out again at 10 months and then got court ordered visitation 1 day a week when my DS was 13 months. Now, Sperm Donor hasn't seen him since he was 16 months old. Sunday he will be 2 years!...
Make sure you keep track of the visits he does have and the ones he cancels just in case! Hope it works out better for you than it has for me and my DS!!!View Thread
hey ladies, i see it has been a while since there have been any responses.
DB and i were together almost a year (on & off) before i got pg and stayed together my entire pregnancy. He was abusive physically and mentally. He cheated on me and after my son was born, I realized that was that last thing i wanted for him. I left him when DS was a little less than two months old. Best choice I've ever made. Since then he has been in and out of his life but mostly out. DS is almost 2 now and doesn't even know who Sperm Donor is. But SD claims that he doesn't have a kids anyway... His loss!!!
When DS was 4 months old, I met an incredible man and he and i were together for over a year. He had a daughter and together we made a family. Eventually we started fighting and our work schedules forced us apart. In october he left, after 2 months of trying to make it work. Still, to this day, DS calls this man daddy and asks for him.
Its been a long, bumpy road but my family and BFF have helped me through the most challenging of times and I know that DS and I would not have made it without them!...
You girls are strong and I hope you realize that you are the best thing for your children and no matter what, keep your heads up and know that God sees you struggling and if you're doing the best you can, whats meant to be will eventually find a way to be!View Thread
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