I am a divorced woman with 2 children (divorced for 2 years now...) and have finally decided to get back into the dating world.
I have met a wonderful man...we emailed back and forth for 9 months before we met...as friends only. I was so hesitant to get involved with anyone because I didnt want my children to go thru a break up again.
We have now been dating for 6 months...we live an hour apart and travel back and forth when we can. My kids love him and he loves them.
Problem? Hes having problems adjusting because hes not their father. He doesnt want to screw them up if things dont work out between us, and he doesnt know where his boundries lie. Ive told him that parenting is natural and no one has all the answers. I learn on a daily basis what im supposed to do. Unfortunately he feels like he needs to fit into this mold of being the perfect person for them. I have just reassured him that right now he needs to be a friend to start,..
Hes putting too much pressure on himself. THe relationship is perfect except for his insecurities with being in that role. And because of that would like to end things.....
Anyone have any advice on how to handle this?View Thread
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