I'm so sorry.I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of releasing him from telling the kids himself. They will resent you if you do I'm sure. Teenagers are so emotional & unpredictable as it is. I would just tell them that Daddy loves them & you love them, but that your not in love with each other anymore. I would tell them you have love for him because he is their dad, but that's it at the moment. Then I would tell the kids that you don't wish to discuss it any further at the moment, but if they have any questions you will answer them the best you can or send them to their dad for the answers you don't know how to give. As far as him not acting like a dad thus far, but now after he has F-ed up wanting to start being a father, well that sucks but it's ultimately up to the kids on whether they are ok with that or not. If you make they choice for them it will only turn them against you. They are old enough to make the choice themselves at this point(not all choice,but to want to have a relationship w/ their dad yeah) & to see things for what they really are on their own. I wish you the best & I'm so sorry for what you're going through.View Thread
Oooohhh! I would be so frustrated too. I completely agree with your feelings there. I don't know all the details obviously, but still he doesn't seem like the nicest or most respectful or even really that considerate even. Sorry akrok1984. Is he even involved with the your girls at all? Why don't you take him to court for child support or even try to strip his rights if he is completely non-involved anyway? Have you had "the daddy talk" DD #1 yet? Don't worry, once she is old enough to understand & see things for what the really are herself she will be ok. I do wish you luck.View Thread
Sorry I hit the wrong button. Anyway, since he took the OTR job my 2 DD's(ages 3yrs & 11months) have been struggling. I know it's just separation anxiety & that they will get through it, but my oldest is acting out because of it. Any tips on how to ease her through this transition?View Thread
I'm new to this forum & technically not a single parent, but was hoping you all would except me anyway considering that I am practically a single parent....? My DH is a trucker, he is home on the weekends but gone through the week, much like with most divorced couples. He has never had to take an OTR (over the road) job before & has always worked local & been home every or almost every night. Well since he took the over roadView Thread
Wow, umm...that's a tough one dear. I think it more depends on how strongly you would prefer her not to see him like this & how strongly she does want to see him.I think you really have to weight the two & see which one come out to be more important for you. She could always see him once he is out, assuming you allow her to. & there are other options then taking her there. You could except his calls so she could attempt to talk to him & have a verbal relationship. You could ask him to write her letters & send her drawings he makes & pictures of himself (they are appropriate for kids to see and don't show the hardships of prison & in most cases are taken on the yard) & have her draw pictures for him & send him pics of her (if you're comfortable doing so) & write him letters telling him what has been going on with her so he knows what to say to her. Anyway, if you're dead set against bringing her there (& who could blame you,really) there are alternatives that would still allow her to have some form of a relationship with him so she could get to know him a little bit before he gets out, & I think that finding some way to do that is important especially if you plan on allowing him to be a part of her life when he is released. Also, you might want to consider going to see him by yourself to physically see if you would be comfortable bringing your DD there prior to actually doing so. Hope that helps. I wish you luck. & I know you will figure out what is right for you & her. Let me know what you decide.View Thread
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