My soon to be ex husband and I have been separated for nearly three years. I have to say it was not a nice situation. The marriage has been for 11 years and we have two beautiful children 13 and 11. I though he was changing, because he was very abusive mentally and physically toward myself and my son and some toward our daughter. We have child support papers that I lied on about our separation date, but it listed the I guess normal visitation. Well it seems that whenever he has a new girlfriend he decides to be for lack of a better term an ass. The kids are scared of him because of the past and don't like to talk to him. They have just started voicing their opinions to me about not wanting to go with him or staying the night. I have tried to talk to him about it, but it is nothing but an argument. I don't want the kids to lose touch with their father but it breaks my heart that my daughter goes into fits to the point she cant breath and my son cant wait till he is old enough to not have to go. I don't think he has done anything to them, but they are not close and they feel better being home. I get the feeling that they are uncomfortable around him, but I don't know how to talk to him about it. I tried to talk to him about maybe just take them during the day and letting them come home at night to rebuild their relationship, but he threatens to have me put in jail for violating the child support order. I have always worked with him so he could take the kids whenever he wanted, but I am getting no help or compromise on his end. it breaks my heart that the kids are so unhappy when they have to go, but I am unsure what to do? I really need some help. I am tired of the mental and verble abuse when all I am trying to do is coparent together and get along for the kids. It is taking ots toll on me and the kids and I feel helpless to stop it.View Thread
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