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Hi. I would like to introduce myself. You can call me Stormy...not my real name, but I like to remain...

Posted by AnotherStormyDay

Hi. I would like to introduce myself. You can call me Stormy...not my real name, but I like to remain anonymous. I was married for 21 years...with the same guy for 25 years... since I was 17. We went to church and the whole nine yards... more to that story... buy anyhow... I found out he had been having many affairs. Another long story, but I ended up filing for divorce.

I am now 45. We have been divorced 3 or 3 1/2 years. I guess that is a good thing that I'm not counting. I have a 21 year old son and a 17 1/2 year old daughter who "accidentally" gave me a grand daughter who was born on my birthday in September. She is just over a year now. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. Especially during the turmultuous past 3 or so years. I honestly think she has saved my life.

I have tried dating again in the past year; howver I run into men who want sex and no feelings. I have not been with many men before or after my long marriage, so now I am feeling like a 15 year old ignorant child.

My curse and my blessing: I look like I am 30 or 35 at the oldest. I am not bragging, but I just shock everyone who says I have no crows feet. So, ultimately I attract 35 year olds and the men my age and older assume I am too young for them.

I tried match.com and found a*hole men who lied about being married and just wanted a fling... I can't do that again. I tried a man at work... that didn't work. I tried a man from highschool when I had facebook... that didn't work. I am actually trying to find contentment in my singleness. It is just frustrating to see all the other women around me who so easily find a man... even if they don't even want one. (aka my best friend). How does this carma work? Ugh.

I could use some help.

I also have read some posts... and maybe with the experiences I have been through, I can be of assistance to someone else. That is my hope. I don't know everything, but some of the posts I have read...well, the answer is obvious to me. I hope that someone will read my post and say the same... the answer is obvious and it is.... ??????

Thanks for listening.

StormyView Thread

Posted by AnotherStormyDay

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coping

i've been contemplating of doing an annulment with my wife for the past 3 years now. i met her in a...

Posted by xtianblanco

i've been contemplating of doing an annulment with my wife for the past 3 years now. i met her in a substance-abuse facility and when we got out, we lived together and i got her pregnant. so i married her. after 2 years, she evolved into someone i do not know anymore. she's got hallucinations that everybody hates her and she nags me about not being sweet to her 24/7.
then i met this girl Trish, that was november 2010. she's a sophisticated, free spirit-type who meets new friends everyday. we fell in love and i was so guilty that she's been feeling like a mistress with the set up we have.
she's from another city and i visited her regularly.
i am very investigative with my questions sometimes and i sensed inconsistencies with her statements all the time. paraniod as i am, i began to suspect she's hiding something from me. then one day i found out when i forced-open her skype account that she has a boyfriend. and they've been together for 5 years now.
i confronted her and of course i felt betrayed, since i have started living away from my wife since her erratic moods was diagnosed with multiple mental disorders and staying with her could break me, her, or us both.
i found out that this guy nick starved himself when Trish left her 5 years ago. then after two weeks after breaking up with Nick, Trish got a call from one of Nick's friends telling her that they have to rush the guy to the hospital and everybody saw it as a suicide attempt.

Trish has this thing that she doesn't want to be responsible for the miseries of her exes. So she drove to nicks place and rushed him to the hospital.

Then, flattered that nick could not stand her absence, she put up a business for this guy and they've become partners and it was did good. when they got more than 500grand, Trish told nick that maybe it's time they get married. but nick said he wants to buy a bike instead.

Time came when nick asked her to marry him, trish realized she's not in love with him anymore. so she had boyfriends and nick found out all about them. they would fight. but when trish attempts to get out of the relationship, nick would warn her that he might kill himself again if she did that. so trish basically created a jail for herself.
everytime nick feels she's leaving him for good, he would always threaten to kill himself and all the time, trish would feel guilty and the cycle went on til today
.

for 6 months now, i have been turning into this monster that would yell at her, tell her she's a slut, etc. because i cannot stand the idea of sharing my girl with another man.
though she swears that they're not having sex anymore, i still turn into that monster and i would break up with her everynight when she gets home from nick.

when i tell her what she did at nicks place she would just brush me off and that made it all worse.

she said in that letter that even before she met me... she was already geared up into leaving nick. and she has done it so many times but nick would stay whole day in the rain in front of trish's office building untill everybody in the building knows the story and he would always satge an embarassing, pathetic stunt to get trish to get to him again.
so trish's only solution was to leave the country... and when she returns, she would get a new place in a different city and be gone with nick forever.

that's her plan she told me... but seven months have past and last night when i broke up with her again she said she'll do everything to leave the country february 2012. she said she would "try her best" to leave the country 3 months from now.

i cannot stand the fact she goes to him mondays thru fridays. on weekends i have her for myself.
but even after a romantic sunday. . mondays will always be like a stormcloud gathering on top of us both brewing the perfect storm that would last till friday.

we're both tired of this cycle of fighting and making up.... but we always wake up the next morning feeling how we love each other, patch and make up. till 4pm comes then my jealousy would rage again.

she's not explaining to me why she stays at nicks for 4-5 hours and hates me when i interrogate her about it.

she loves me, i know that but she can't give me the peace of mind i have been begging for since june.

the last 3 months i have been doing drugs to cope with the screwed up realationship i am in. i am beggining to get hooked again cos when i do drugs, i don't turn into this monster and im even sweeter than when im sober.

she said she cant leave nick because he might kill himself and her investment to the business they have is so huge she cannot just leave it in a snap. she says she loves me and tells me not to ask questions. she tells me she doesn't love him anymore and she loves me but she cannot be open with me.
i cannot stand her going to nicks place. whether it's business or her investment, i still get paranoid that they're still having sex.
i cannot stand it anymore. she's got no explanations for me. and no definite date as to when she's leaving the country.

she told me she's had bad relationships in the past that she cannot open up to me anymore. told me i shouldn't rush things and just wait till she leaves the country. and then maybe that's the time i can get the explanation i want.
should i stay or should i go?View Thread

Posted by xtianblanco

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LONG DUCK

Long duck, Are you gone? did you get banned?

Posted by An_240989

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This guy I'm dating

Ok its this guy its not serious yet but I was told by me friend that he makes passes at her and I can't...

Posted by Anon_238010

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Ready for a life...but don't know how to start one...

been single for almost 2 years and it kinda gets boring after awhile. Just the other day i kinda relized...

Posted by Anon_237212

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what's his problem

this guy has been my friend for 3yrs and counting and he has always made passes at me but I didn't want to...

Posted by 76dorothy

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Problems

Well i have a friend of mine and i called her thursday night and she asked me if i had a girlfriend and i may...

Dylan

Posted by Brixter1

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Single

I am a 25 year old male almost 26 and i have a hard time asking a female out. I get cold feet how can i combat...

Posted by Brixter1

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spoke to him today and he says he's not yet emotionally ready to handle a relationship. which is...

Posted by qr_fml

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single but "friend with benefit"?

So here's my story in the short version....I started talking to his guy since Jan 2010. Then we decided to have...

Posted by qr_fml

So here's my story in the short version....I started talking to his guy since Jan 2010. Then we decided to have sex in July 2010. Ever since then we got closer and closer as friends and we continued having sex.

The problem is, its been 1 year since we started "talking" and its gonna be 6 months since we started having sex. He tells me he likes me and enjoy spending time with me (hanging out as friends and then the sex part too). He knows i really like him, and i know he likes me.

Problem is, his ex-girlfriend broke it off with him a while ago and I don't think he's over her as yet. When we recently met, he told me he bought a $10k ring and everything for her and he never got the chance to even propose to her b/c she randomly decided to go back to her ex boyfriend. The history on them is that they were friends for 7 years and they dated for 1 1/2 years until she broke it off.

Ok, here is where it gets annoying. His ex-girl keeps requesting him then deleting him off facebook for a few months and now i think she's attempting to be friends with him or get back with him (I'm not sure yet what exactly she wants).

Even though he tells me he misses me and likes me alot, i'm thinking Why isn't he asking me to be his girlfriend? We talk day and night literally 24/7/365.

I do press the situation to him about us being officially together but he just isn't making that step forward to ask me. What do you guys think he's waiting for?

We do spend time together and not have sex. We go to the movies and mall and talk just like friends actually do. This past weekend he actually asked me to go out of town with him and his group of friends. but i had to decline b/c I'm sick and i also have my monthly visit. I'm thinking he wanted an opportunity to be alone with me? b/c we are always working and i have school, so our schedules are tight but we still see each other once a week or more.View Thread

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Think he's interested in me as a girlfriend?

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Challenges and benifits

What are some of the challenges and Benifits that you see to being single in 2011?

Posted by Bobbob24

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Alone for the holidays

hello, Is there anyone here alone for the holidays? If so what do you do during that time?

Posted by Bobbob24

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Alone for the holidays

hello, Is there anyone here alone for the holidays? If so what do you do during that time?

Posted by Bobbob24

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Too clingy?

Some friends and I were talking this weekend about online dating. As a male what are your turn offs...

Posted by butterfly19790424

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Too quiet here

It does not seem like there is much traffic on this site. I am going to try some of the other relationship...

Posted by Bobbob24

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IS HE INTO ME

my friend for almost 3yrs we text and call each other but he feels that sometimes I don't give him the kind...

Posted by An_208172

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I am single yet again

The date did not go well. There was too big an age difference. Plus I think I revealed too much of myself to...

Posted by Bobbob24

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What to wear

Got a date tonight but not sure what to wear. Is there such a thing as a man dressing to provacative. I dont...

Posted by Bobbob24

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Over 30 and single

I find the depressing part of being single is being over 30 and single.

Posted by Bobbob24

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pressure to get married

I constantly feel presure to get married as a societal norm. What are your feelings on this?

Posted by Bobbob24

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iM SINGLE!

So I was chit chatting on another post and one of our members prodded me into posting my own...

Posted by lissmeanstrouble

So I was chit chatting on another post and one of our members prodded me into posting my own discussion. I hope yall are ready for mouthful.
I have been single since January 1st of this year. Yes ol Peewee left me on new years day. We were together for 3 years on and off, he is just crazy in his head I have decided. I am 22 and he is 25, I met him when I was 18, and had just broken up with my high school sweetie of 4 years... so I have been in two pretty long term relationships so far, and have been wanting to stay single for an entire year, cause I have literally not been single for longer then 4 months since I was 16. Thats not entirely healthy when you see it from that perspective. I have been doing really good being single for 9 months now~!. I am actually ten times happier. I had lots of problems with depression, when peewee left it really tore me back cause he told me he wanted to get married, and I had a pregnancy scare. I was letting him stay with me for free, and he wasnt working. We were doing just fine until I decided to stick up for myself and told him to get a job or get out, so he got out. I tried so hard to be patient with him, cause he had a bad year but there is only so much I can do, you have got to help yourself, a boyfriend aint supposed to feel like an over grown son. Needless to say im glad he is gone and realize that I cant change a man, I cant get these fixer uppers and fix em up this aint an old house, these are people and people must change themselves. So I am tryin to find a man, who is ambitious like me, I crave independence, I need a man who needs to feel independent too, some one who fails to take care of themselves, just really pisses me off. I need a man who has a car, and a darn job. I NEED A MAN, not a BOY.
I am enjoying being single for the moment. I dont even want to pursue any one.
last week I was all confused cause a couple months ago I started sleeping with a good friend of mine. He has been a friend for 7 years and never had touched me sexually up until recently. we were fooling around for a while and then he got all anxious and nervous around me and like wouldnt look at me or sit next to me or touch me, and wouldnt talk to me about it, like he had this huge wall up on me!. I was being absolutely obsessive about this for a month! It was driving me crazy... why wont he touch me? why wont he kiss me again? what is the problem all a sudden?
This weekend we all went out the bar a big group of us. Another pretty good friend of mine... ill call him B and the other one is Z. Well B just got out of Jail. So obviously he does not meet my standards. I will not settle for jail birds. B was a good guy with a good job, and got hooked on heroin lost his job lost alot alot alot of things including my respect, but that doesnt make him unattractive when Im drunk. So I did not entirely plan on it but I slept with B saturday night and Z was at the bar with us and for the first time in a month Z was touching me and tryin to get next to me, and I caught onto this and found it rather funny, chose to rub it in his face and sit on Bs lap, then I let B take me home with out saying bye to Z. ha ha ha I hope he is jealous, cause I have been so sexualy frustrated for 2 months cause he was... I dont even know. Why would Z back off from me and get jealous as soon as he sees me moving on? I mean it makes sense but it doesnt. And I gave myself a pep talk "your not ready for a relationship so who cares about whos feelings you hurt" really is that a good thing to tell myself though? Like I dont wanna break no ones heart, but I aint gonna get walked on anymore either!View Thread

Posted by lissmeanstrouble

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Married with single friends

Almost all my friends are single. It is hard to find a couple that both my wife and I like. My single...

Posted by An_208185

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Married with single friends

Almost all my friends are single. It is hard to find a couple that both my wife and I like. My single...

Posted by An_208184

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dating several ppl

dated several guy at one time one for lunch and another one for dinner, and never got cought...but when i...

Posted by An_208183

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What the heck is a single couple?

I am not sure what a single couple is?

Posted by An_208179

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Share your best place to meet other singles!

Need to get this discussion rolling.

Posted by GuardSquealer

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Posted Your Exchange to Couple's Coping Support Gr...

Just wanted to help get the word out. Georgia

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Just thought I would create a place for singles si...

I am not single, but there always was a lot of people posting in the couples coping board saying there...

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