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Dating three guys at the same time and sleeping with Z? That must have been confusing and crowded

I admire men or women with enough charisma to be able to do that. It is has been 20 years since I had sex with anyone. That is tough to live with. When I read about other people's active sex lives, I just dream what thay must be like.View Thread

I guess you are trying to tell me I am not alone in this situation. If so, thanks.
I am not sure I can stand companionship either. It always ends up with me grabing my tools, my truck and going to work for someone who, maybe says "Thank you". Often, not even that.
B-o-u-n-d-a-r-i-e-s. That is my word for the day!View Thread


Your suggestion about checking their log-in frequency and "replies often" status is a good.
Anything you care to share is helpful. I do not know if you read my profiles but some thoughts on that could help. Is there anything too weird? Are the photos interesting or scary.
Years ago, I took a photo of myself after coming from subzero temperatures. I was later told I look like a drunk beacuse my face was flushed from the outside exposure. That never occured to me.View Thread



I hope to hear from you.View Thread

I have participated on Eharmony, Match.com, Chemistry.com, Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid for almost four years. I have spent countless hours composing messages and sent hundreds of emails. My last count was somewhere close to 300. Out of that, I have three replies. Two thanked me for writing but were not interetested in continuing. One has led to a phone call and we meet for lunch tomorrow.
Eharmony provided around 25 matches, none would respond.
Match.com- no responses.
OK Cupid- No responses.
Chemistry.com- several matches but no responses. I even tracked down the Pyschologist who developed their matching model to ask her why it is not working- no replies. She was shocked to learn that, had never heard of such a thing happening but had no idea what I should do. She read my profile as has my own therapist- a very attractive and popular woman in my community.She also could not find anything weird or objectionable.
So, I can say that on-line dating has been a dissappointment for me and triggered severe depression many times. I am past the depression part but do not know where to go from here.
I have voluntered at many events. I am friendly and outgoing. I help women who ask me for help. None of this leads to so much as a cup of coffee. I must be the most unpopular man that ever lived in this area. I mean it is astonishing how the most basic forms of contact and communication are met with nothing other than stoney silence.
So, if you have any ideas- do let me in one them. They will be greatly appreciated.
Life, as I have known it for many many years is not worth the trouble without having even a basic social life.View Thread

Thanks for the kind thoughts.
I have been seeing several therapists for some years now. Two told methey could not help me. One I have been seeing for 18months. She started out thinking I could break out of myisolation./ She does not think that any more and is trying to get me toaccept that my situation is not likely to change.
My depression is easy to understand- no family, no friends and no social life. If I had a social life and could go on dates and have some romance and love in my life- find a partner- that would be the end of my depression. So easy to fix, so hard to solve.
I have no where to go, except to dissappear in the mountains. That is my plan for my birthday- coming up in mid October. Every year I take that lonesome journey, not sure if I am coming back.. I sit on a rock and reflect on my life- past and prospects for the future. There is no change year to year. One of these trips I will not come back from. That is OK.. We all die. At least in my case, it will be easier for everyone else. No one will notice I am gone for a long time.Then my neighbors will come and help themselves to my property, which is fine. My animals will suffer so I may wait until most of them are gone.View Thread

I could sure benefit for a friend just now. Every where I turn the doors are closed to me.
Man, I am about out of this life.View Thread
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