My husband has a hard time sleeping. It takes him a while to get to sleep and he wakes up often during the night. If I wake up before him in the morning and startle him, he gets extremely angry. We cannot cuddle because if I touch him while he is sleeping or even dozing off, it scares him (I think??) and he yells at me. I also have to be careful when moving in the bed because that also startles him and again, he's angry. Although it seems like he can't help it, it still hurts my feelings and we end up fighting a lot.
He doesn't want to go to a sleep clinic and says it's just stress. He used to say it was because he wasn't used to sleeping with someone every night, but we've been together for three years now! We do not have kids, but we would like to soon. I am afraid of what he will do when our child wakes him up. He says it will be different when we have kids and he'll "know" not to get angry. I'm not so sure he'll be able to control it.
I want to help him, but I'm not sure how. I also miss sharing that closeness and I'm concerned for our future. Has anyone else experienced this with their partner? Any advice?View Thread
Our sex life is not an issue. I may have been misleading with the closeness comment. I only meant that I would like to be able to cuddle in the middle of the night or when I wake up in the morning. By the time he's fully awake and not "sensitive" to my noise or movements, I'm usually out of the bed and ready to start my day.View Thread