Your name must be Karen. While you changed a couple of things, I must be the ex. You can't and you aren't hurting anyone. It isn't fair for you to have to carry that kind of weight.
An addict typically doesn't get sober until his/her spouse leave's them. Addict's don't change or move until they absolutely have to.
I had resigned myself to the fact that you were going to leave me after our vacation. I was completely sober when we got back because I was ready for you to leave and announce you were pregnant. I don't understand why addict's don't get sober until their spouse leaves them.
Whether you stay with your ex or not, just know that he loves you enough to let you go. Loving someone means giving all of yourself to that person. My guess is he doesn't have a job or real social network support. He needs to get both, and if you leave him and love him, he will reconnect with the world.
We truly are soul mates. However, if he's "angling" to get you back, that sounds a little like manipulation to me. Addicts are master manipulators and my guess is you feel caught between a rock and a hard place. Don'!. You have given him everything. What has he given you?? Certainly not happiness. If he is truly a good man, he just wants you to be happy. I think I'll go to church tomorrow, maybe buy some pretzels. Love is a funny thing.....
***Just be honest; talk to him. Tell him exactly what you wrote down here and ask him why you should take him back*****View Thread
No one wants to talk to addicts, except other addicts.
1. Get connected, socialize; talk to people who will listen. (I'm listening, but have no one to talk to; ironic.) 2. Get up and get busy. Time slows way down when your sober. 3. Boredom is your enemy, it always wins. 4. Yes, you can get a job, try it, and no Taco Bell is not beneath you. 5. Addicts are taker's, retrain your brain to be a giver: Help others, listen, talk to people who need help. 6. Lastly, addicts are master manipulators, they won't change without real consequences. (Don't feed their addiction)View Thread