It's depressing. It's excitement. It's sad. It's stressful. It's frustrating. It's a roller coaster. It's...
Posted by Anon_82195
It's depressing. It's excitement. It's sad. It's stressful. It's frustrating. It's a roller coaster. It's all I think about every day. It's a different kind of jealousy I don't want.
Everyone always talks about how exciting it is ttc. No one ever talks about how hard it could really be. It might be exciting for those "normal" people. But, I guess I just am not one of those people. It has been one of the hardest time of my life, honestly.
I just wish women would be real when it comes to ttc. I want understanding and compassion from others. I don't want to share my story with everyone I meet. I don't want advice on getting pregnant. I've obv. read enough of that in the last year and a half. I don't need those ignorant remarks.
These are just a few things I bite my tongue about every day.. but, I really don't have the guts to say.View Thread
I've had late periods twice in the year and half we've been TTC. I was seven days late this month and...
Posted by Anon_76132
I've had late periods twice in the year and half we've been TTC. I was seven days late this month and started last Friday morning with really dark brown. It continued all day and into Saturday getting a lighter pink but never red. Then on Sunday, nothing at all, all day. Today I had some more brown spotting for a couple of hours and now gone again. I'm normally a spotter for two days and heavy for three and back to light for three. This is nowhere near normal. I've been queasy today and it seemed like I could barely hook my bra this morning. Am I just getting too mental or could I really finally be pregnant?View Thread
I have never posted anything like this. My and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for about 1.5 years. I just recently found that I have PCOS. I go for about 6-7 months without a period and I never know when it is going to occur. It is heartbreaking. Sometimes I feel like I am a failure even though there is nothing I can do about the problem. I am trying to remain positive but the doctors have told me that it is going to be near impossible for me to get pregnant. I feel like I have been on an emotional roller coaster because we got married around the same time as three of our friends and one of them is on their 4th child and others have had no problem getting pregnant. When we talk they ask me when we are going to get started and I really don't know what to say. I want to be excited for them and I don't want them to feel bad for us. I have tried Provera to help me regulate but it works for one cycle and then I go back to waiting. I have been told about Clomid but someone told me that it rarely works for woman with PCOS. Is this true? I need some tips or opinions or something!View Thread
I just got my lab results back for my cycle day 21 and I am at a 14.5, which I am told is great. The nurse...
Posted by Anon_227638
I just got my lab results back for my cycle day 21 and I am at a 14.5, which I am told is great. The nurse said I probably wouldn't be put on Clomid because my level was high enough.The nurse then said they would like to do a semen analysis on my husband. Well, he doesn't seem too thrilled about it. ( He may be scared but he won't admit it. Now what?? Could they even do anything for him if his semen is low or low mobility?? This is a new territory that I know nothing about. Please help!!! I am scared!View Thread
We have tried for 20 months. We had 5 months of "not trying" in between. We've tried everything! I've had dr. visits,I've taken the temp. for months and months, taken xrays. Going back to the dr. in five days to see what the next step is. I've honestly lost hope. I feel unhappy every day. I don't want to think about it but, I teach pre-k I'm reminded all day how fun and energetic and challenging kiddos are. I have to see friends with their families in Christmas cards. I want that too. I just feel like each month I lose something inside, I feel so hopeless. I would really like to consider adoption, my husband is not there. He's not anywhere near there. I want to be a mommy. That's all I'm asking for, I just want to be a mommy.View Thread
My husband and I have been TTC for 2 years now. We had a bump in the road back in October when I was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma insitu. I had a cone biopsy done and everything came out great. So we are back to trying even harder this time. My cousin told me yesterday that she's pergo. I am so happy for her but can't stop feeling jealous and sad. I don't want to feel this way towards her because I love her so much. She wasn't even trying. She said it just happened.Why can't that just happen for me? Why is it that when you want something so bad and it keeps happening for other people? I'm severely depressed about the way I'm feeling. I feel like I need to just appect the fact that this may not be in the cards for me. It makes me feel like a failure as a woman and a wife.View Thread
My husband and I have been TTC for over 3 years--running the usual tests. My husband's sperm testing had come...
Posted by An_241933
My husband and I have been TTC for over 3 years--running the usual tests. My husband's sperm testing had come out normal. But, it was discovered that I had mild endometriosis that was treated with laproscopy surgery. Following the surgery, our doctor, without much follow-up, determined we needed to do a dye test, which came out with normal results. Again, without follow-up, we finally decided to seek a fertility specialist as suggested by a family member. The specialist required that we do mucus charting for four months at which time we have had frustrating paperwork to even have our records reviewed by the doctor. We have finally decided that we are through waiting. We have felt the heartache and frustration of "sharing" the joy of family and friends' pregnancies. When will it be our turn? If anything, this entire process has made our marriage stronger, but I feel my will wavering every disappointing month after month. We have begun looking for doctors that specialize in IUI. Has anyone else had experience with this procedure? Any suggestions?
Hi everyone, I feel silly posting on here, but I don't know what else to do to help myself through all of this. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant since last December. As soon as I got off the pill I got pregnant, but only carried my baby for 6 weeks. I was completely devastated! We started trying again a couple months after that. I made an appointment with an infertility doctor to start discussions on what may possibly be wrong. I don't know what else to do!!! I feel like there is something wrong with me!View Thread
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I am 45 y.o. My husband and I are looking to get pregnant. We consulted a fertility specialist who tested my...
Posted by An_241790
I am 45 y.o. My husband and I are looking to get pregnant. We consulted a fertility specialist who tested my FSH level. Found it to be high...reflecting a likelihood of poor quality eggs. My husband has very low sperm count, so the sperm must be extracted from his testicles. The specialist recommends egg donor. I want to try for my own first however. I want to try IUI with fertility pills. I appreciate any insights. Thanks.View Thread
So My period is 8 days late but yesterday I started spotting. I heard that you can still get your period and be pregnant. With that being said, if I take a pregnancy test while spotting will the test be as accurate as if taken without spotting?View Thread
My husband and I have been "trying" for 2 years now and have still not conceived. There are a few factors which may be hindering our efforts, but one is particularly concerning to me. My husband is a healthy 31 year old, and yet, he has very little ejaculate. It has been this way for at least the last two years, and I am wondering what might be the cause of this. He doesn't take any medication, and though he does drink alcohol frequently, it is not every day. Please help!View Thread
My husband and I are 24 and 26 and have been TTC for 1 1/2 years. We decided to try IVF last month and they retrieved 11 eggs and by day 5 transfer we only had 2 viable embies to transfer in. Sadly we got a a BFN 2 weeks later. We were devestated.
We have had all sorts of testing. I have been deemed normal besides having polycystic ovaries, but not PCOS. My husband was perfect! So we are unexplained...which is SO irritating!
We are considering trying Follistism with a trigger shot and natural intercourse. A friend of mine did this and had success with it after 3 cycles and is now pregnant with twins.
I think the IVF may have been too invasive on my body and stressed it out too much. Im hoping this new method will be less stressfull on my body and mind and we will be able to relax a bit more.
My husband and I have been TTC since June 2010 with 1 miscarriage last November. I scheduled an appt next week to talk about options and to have blood work done. I am soo scared that the doc will tell me something is wrong with me or my husband! And I want to have a list of questions ready to ask the doctor or tell her what route I want to go down next. Does anyone have any advice of either what to ask or suggest?? Also, my cycle is still off my my D & C. This month my cycle was 35 days!! I've used OPK's and charted but either I am not ovulating or it's not regular each month. So frustrating!! Any insight please!View Thread
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for over a year now. I was checked by my OBGYN and everything was fine. My husband went to his PCP just for a physical and we found out that he has low testosterone. He's had an MRI of his brain to make sure his pituitary gland was working properly and we were told that everything was fine. His PCP decided to put him on AndroGel to see if that would help get his testosterone back to normal. He recently went to see an Endocrinologist and was told that AndroGel completely wipes out your sperm count...so needless to say, we've been trying for months and more than likely his sperm count is zero. What should we do? We're at a loss...help View Thread
Hi. DH and I have been trying to get pregant for 22 months. I have PCOS with insulin resistance and DH had low sperm motility (as in 0%). We are taking vitamins and supplements to help and have given ourselves until January to get pregnant. If we are not by then, we will begin to look into fertility treatments. While doing some research for a local fertility Dr., I can across a clinic that talked about fallopian tube sperm perfusion. It sounds like it might be more beneficial than IUI. Does anyone have any experience with this or have you spoken with your fertility dr about it?
I am 36 and DH will be 46 in January so we are feeling the clock ticking away. SO glad to have found this forum where there are people that are having the same feelings I am. I feel so alone. DH is amazing but there is still a part of my desire to have a child that I don't think he (or any other man) will ever be able to fully understand.
Praying that we all end up on the graduation list SOON!!!!!!View Thread
Ok, so, I used to lurk on this board way back when we just passed the 12 month mark of ttc. That was approx 3.5 yrs ago. (yes, you read that right, over FOUR YEARS of trying). Well, up until I got a new job about 6 months ago, we didn't have insurance. At all. Hard to get fertility help when you can't afford it. Anyway, did some testing recently, found out that my DH has low sperm count AND low motility. Everything else is normal. Our doctors answers were more sex. So, that we did. Not too bad, right? lol. Now, a while back (few years) I had gone through the temping, the charting, the ovulation tests, etc, etc, etc. DH and I found that this wasn't right for us, too stressful, too much worry and it took the romance completely out of our marriage. So, we decided to let the cards fall where they may, we prayed and asked to be blessed with a baby when the time was right and we waited. Our relationship grew, we became closer, we've managed to move out of my parents house (sadly, we were stuck there....finances...blah), I've secured an amazing job with amazing benefits, life has seemed to be heading up. Now, the only thing left was that baby. We scheduled tests, had to decide whether or not to try any fertility meds, which I ultimately decided not to. I don't like taking anything and I'm too stubborn to not succeed with my own body and equipment. So, on 11/11/11, I had a *feeling* and even though AF wasn't due until the 17th (so, yes, in two days), I decided to take a test. Imagine my shock and disbelief when it was a BFP. And then I took another one, another BFP. I've taken a few more in the days since then, and all BFP. I'm not naive enough to think this could be the end of the journey, I know there's a possibility that we could miscarry, I know it's early. However, I'm excited to know that we CAN get pregnant. It IS possible!!!! And, while the tests keep saying +, I'm going to keep smiling. I hope everyone else can experience this as well, I know it's possible.View Thread
Hello: This's my story. I am 38 yeas old, and I have polycystic ovary syndrome. We are trying to conceive...
Posted by Anon_126162
Hello: This's my story. I am 38 yeas old, and I have polycystic ovary syndrome. We are trying to conceive for 2 years. We have Insurance, and only paid for evaluation or initial Fertility consultation; no for studies or treatments. We have no money available to do for ourselves without help. I think the worst is not be able to know what is happening in our bodies that we are unable to conceive. I checked in others countries for affordable studies and treatments but the travel and the time we need to spend there is too much for us too. I am desperated. He maybe is able to conceive but he keeps saying me that he is married with me only because he loves me. I dont want to interfere in his right to be a father if he wants to, but infidelity or sharing is something unaceptable for me. Adoption: too expensive, takes too long? I dont know. We are talking about resignation and God's destiny all the time. I love to be a mother. What do you think about this. Please, you can be totally sincere with me, brutally sincerity is ok, too. I prefer honest people that polite ones. Thank you.View Thread
Hello All. My husband and I have been TTC baby # 2 since July 2010 so we are 17 months of trying. I will say it is much easier having my son now. He is 2 and since i've had him it hasn't been as bad at all as it was the first try to get pregnant with him. With my son we tried for 9 months and nothing happened and then I took clomid and got pregnant the first month on 50mg so I just knew this time it would happen just as fast as I took clomid the last time. Well little did I know that normally doesn't happen the first try with Clomid especially clomid alone without anything else. With baby #2 we have taken 3 rounds of clomid with timed intercourse only(w/o IUI) and didn't get a BFP so I took 2 months off to rest. Now I am back into trying our first IUI with Clomid 50mg and it failed for the month of July! The month of August we are taking a break from trying again and having surgery on the 25th. After surgery they found I had severe scar tissue on abdomen, bladder and uterus all stuck together, ovaries had mild endometriosis and interstitial cystitis on bladder and took appendix out. Husband went back to the urologist end of September and he put him on vitamins to help boost his low motility. We are hopeful that after 3 months on the vitamins his counts will improve and we can do another IUI with clomid around December or Jan.
I am so blessed to have my son and know that if we can't have anymore I am completely satisfied with him alone but we do want another baby one day and feel adoption is something we want to look into further and have already starting looking into it. We will see what happens, we could end up with 3 babies in the end one day
I took a test tonight and after us trying for 18 months I am hopefully pregnant it showed two lines. I will go to the dr. to confirm but don't give up hope. We weren't on any meds or anything just on vitamins and God made it happen in his perfect time. I am praying it will stick! Baby dust to you all!
Hi, My name is Jessica. Me and my husband have been TTC now for 16 months. We have had all the initial testing done. His SA came back great. Really high count and 87% motility. I had a HSG done and had an allergic reaction to the dye. but that was good too. My estrodol level came back 120 for my mature 18 mm fallicole... and that was low they like to see it close to a 200. I am hypothyroidism... and my insulin level came back a 13.5 so they started me on metformin because they like to see it under a 10 to increase chances of conceiving. I have another appointment with my Fertility Specialist Nov. 18... I just need someone to talk to, to keep me from stressing out.... it would be nice to hear other ppl's stories for motivation!View Thread
So, I used to frequent these boards back when dh and I first started "really" ttc. That was about 2 yrs ago....Already 2 yrs into us not getting pregnant. Now, we're going on 4+ years....I'm just wondering if there's anyone else out there who has been trying this long as well. We did recently start fertility testing, we just got insurance good enough to cover the cost. Found out that dh has low sperm count and low motility. Haven't found anything with me yet, but that's next. I just never hear about people trying as long as we have. Feels like we're all alone in this and that's hard to deal with.View Thread
I am 22 yrs old and been with my partner (24) for 3 years and we have officially been TTC for a year this week after yet another period arrived right on time We are raising 2 kids 1 each from another relationship prior to each other, and naturally we want a child of our own, together. We actually got a puppy about 6 months ago to fill the void, and it worked for awhile, but we haven't stopped trying and every month I still feel left with disappointment. We were both young when we had our kids, but it happened effortlessly without trying, obviously. Now we are trying & I know it shouldn't be this hard. My doctor said she "doesn't like to use the word infertility, but..." she has been right with us every month and doesn't really have any answers. We have a very healthy sex life, so for the 1st 6 months or so we didn't really keep track of ovulation because it just seemed so likely we would "hit" those days. For the past 4 months I have taken the ovulation tests and I AM ovulating right on schedule and having regular periods, and every month we make sure to try on those days. Still nothing. I find it so frustrating because I am healthy, not over weight, don't drink, don't smoke, I even stopped consuming caffeine, My partner is healthy in all these ways also, but he does smoke. But it just seems like that can't be the problem because so many people smoke or worse and still have no problems having kids. & this is where I find myself, bitter at everyone that is blessed enough to get pregnant, and that just isn't me and it's not right, but why is it not happening for us? My doctor says the next step, this month since again I've got my period right on time and it's been 12 months, is my partner will get a semen analysis. That is fine, but we both KNOW we CAN have kids, so how could something be wrong with us now? I'm just giving up hope, and it's killing me not to be able to have a baby WITH the man I love. Looking for Support and words of comfort. Thank you for listening. MLView Thread
I have been married for almost four years I have been helping my husband rasie his 2 children since they were infants. I am a teacher of young children so on a daily basis I am reminded of not being able to get pregnant. I had lap surgery to diagnosis endometriosis and around 90% of it was removed. I had high expectations of getting pregnant within the 6 months after my surgery but now a year later I have still been unsuccessful. I try to not focus on that each month but it is so hard and although my husband tells me that it will happen when I stop thinking about but I feel that since he is a parent and I am only a step parent he does not understand what I am feeling. I have talked to other about my frustrations usually I turn it into a joke about my plumbing not working however it is devastating. Each month I cannot fight my tears and I feel like less and less of a women. I work with children 6 days a week and its so hard. I am not sure what I am looking to hear from posting this but it feels good to just repeat what I am feeling. ABout 4 months ago we met with a fertility doc and I had all of the diagnostic test and blood work done I will find out next friday what they found. With all of the procedures and medicaitons I have been on in the past 2 years I feel like a lab rat and the thought of fertility is making me feel worse and overwhelemed. Some women just take this blessing for granted and I would give anything for morning sickness, swollen body parts, weight gain etc. Well this is a pretty fertile weekend for me so fingers crossed hopefully my tone will change next month. Thanks for listening. And goodluck to everyone else TTCView Thread
How can my cycles be as regular as clockwork, but still never get PG?!?! I can tell you the exact day my AF will come and I am always right. Never miss a beat, but still can't get PG. It was so easy with my DS, 2 months and BAM!!! Now, it's been a year and nothing. So frustrating!!!View Thread
Ok,im 23 and i have regular cycles.I got pregnant when i was 15,and yes i had her.i got on depo until i was 18.it wasnt like ive been trying to get pregnant,but after a year of being with my then bf,i noticed i never got pregnant.so we broke up (not b/c of that) and i went back to my childs father.we were together for 3yrs and still nothing.so now i have a new b/f but we been together for 2 years and i have yet to conceive.i just dont understand.when i wasnt planning it,i got pregnant,but now that im planning it...NOTHING....i only got pregnant 1 time in my life....whats the problem?o and i drink and smoke,but i was doing that when i was 15 and way worse.somebody help:(View Thread
Hi ladies it has been a very long time since I have been on here. I was on back in March getting my IVF done. Anyway long story short, just wanted to ask when should I count CD1. I have been TTC forever and you would think I would remember this stuff but I forget sometimes. Sat. night I wore a pad just in case but AF wasnt due until today, so when I got home I had about a dime size amout of blood on my pad and when I went to the bathroom it was a good bit but was bright red it was dark red and this was around 11pm. Yesterday was my normal flow, and im wondering even though it was bright red blood and as late as it was should I count CD1 when i saw the dark red blood or when I had my normal flow. Tried looking it up and everyone says different things. Some say normal flow while others say any sign of blood other than brown you count as CD1. Remember gyno nurse saying CD1 is counted when you see red blood. Anyway please let me know which day to count. Thanks.View Thread
My husband and I have been ttc for 3 years now. No baby, not even a late or missed period. We're both young and healthy. We havn't tried any treatments. We prefer not to try invitro. My gyno has never suggested that anything is wrong. I've told him that it's been 3 yrs and he doesn't seem to be concerned. My periods are usually regular, but they don't last very long, maybe 3 days at the most. Could this have something to do with it. Maybe I'm not producing the right amounts of hormones. It's getting frustrating. The age old question, " when are you guys having kids?" is getting harder and harder to avoid. Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!View Thread
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