This community was first started 3 1/2 years ago, and I've been the moderator here almost the entire time. Between this community and Infertility Treatment community, I have watched over 85 women graduate into pregnancy. So always keep that hope that you'll be the next BFP (Big Fat Pregnant on your pregnancy test)!
Even though I won't be here in person, know I'll still be cheering you on. If you need to Report a Post , here's a link that tells you how. Olivia will be the new moderator on the Infertility Treatment community.
If you do not feel comfortable with your current fertility specialist's recommendations, you can make another appointment to discuss what you'd like to do with him or her. Maybe you can work out a plan together. Or you can seek out a second opinion--perhaps from an expert who specializes in helping women who are at an advanced maternal age.
Because of your age, I would encourage you to be proactive and get started with a specialist you feel comfortable with. You may want to post on our Infertility Treatment community too, for more support.
My doctor told me that bleeding or spotting should not interfere with a Home Pregnancy Test (HPT). However, check the information sheet or call the toll-free customer support line for your HPT's manufacturer, to be sure. Your doctor or pharmacist should be able to advise you, too.
I'm sorry to hear you've been having abnormal periods for a year. Since you're having very heavy bleeding and you're concerned that "something is seriously wrong" with you, I would strongly encourage you to see your doctor and get some expert advice.
Please let us know what you find out once you've seen your doctor,
According to the Infertility Treatment Slideshow , "In about 40% of the infertile couples, the cause is traced to the man." Since you cannot see sperm, the amount of ejaculate doesn't necessarily tell you anything. A Semen Analysis may be used to check that out.
I'd definitely encourage you both to see your doctors, and get started on figuring out what's kept you from conceiving for the last two years.
I just saw Dr. Marks and other experts discussing male infertility and testosterone in the November/December issue of WebMD Magazine . I checked, and they have the October issue up right now, but the Nov/Dec one should be up shortly. Or, if your doctor's office carries it you can get a copy there.
He recommended men see a urologist for fertility issues, so you may want to read the article and consider if seeing a urologist might be a good option for your husband.
In my state, there are foster care programs, some of which can lead to affordable adoption opportunities. Surrogacy may also be an option. You've mentioned religion, and I am wondering if you've checked if there are any grants, loans or adoption opportunities through your church.