I would encourage you to talk with your doctor about your desires to be a mom. Talk about your money concerns and come up with a realistic plan you can afford. Some tests, like a Semen Analysis (Remember, up to 40% of infertility is from the male) are relatively inexpensive, and some infertility medications, like Clomid , now have generics available.
Using Ovulation Predictor Kits can help you figure out when (or if) you're ovulating, and tell you what days it's most important for you to have sex on in order to conceive. You can learn more with the Getting Pregnant Quiz .
What I have heard recommended is trying for a year if you're under 35, or six months if you're over 35. I think it's smart that you've gone to your doctor and are getting some testing under way to find out what's going on. The scans should definitely help give your doctor an idea of what's going on inside.
First of all, you will need to see a doctor to get some answers, but don't convince yourself it will be bad news. Consider it as expert help so you and your husband can achieve your dream of becoming parents.
Secondly, this article on abortion says this about Fertility , "An abortion is unlikely to affect your fertility." Again, your doctor will be able to tell you more, but hopefully it will help you feel a bit better.
Depo Provera is known to take a very long time before a woman starts to ovulate again. Nurse Jane talks about Depo Provera and Ovulation in her blog and says, "When testing for actual return of ovulation, the range can be 77-425 days with a mean time of 211 days— or seven months (Fotherby, 1986)." You can see that some women take over a year for ovulation to return.
Your doctor will be able to address the heavy periods, pains, nausea and fatigue, too.
I'm sorry to hear of your TTC frustrations. Nurse Jane's blog posting on Getting Pregnant after the IUD may be helpful to you. As it is coming up on a year since you started trying, you may want to consider seeing your doctor.
It sounds like you're doing all the right things. Going to a fertility clinic was a smart move. I sure hope that your first round of Clomid leads to a positive ovulation. This Ovulation and TTC Tips slideshow may be helpful.
You may also want to try posting on the Infertility Treatment community. They're a very supportive community and busier than this one tends to be.
Welcome discouragemominnorthcarolina, and thanks for posting!
I am sorry to hear about your challenges with trying to get pregnant for a second child. Nurse Jane wrote a blog posting about Missed Your Period but Not Pregnant that may be helpful.
She mentions progesterone may be used by your doctor to start your period. She also mentions a number of reasons why your period may be missing, including thyroid, body weight, etc. I'd encourage you to read this and discuss it with your doctor.
You may want to look into yoga, tai chi, painting, etc. classes as a way to relieve some stress. Your doctor may have some good ideas and will be able to clear you for starting an exercise plan if you'd like to start one.