Showmetiger8, hang in there and don't get discouraged just yet. I know it's easier said than done, but as you've seen I've sat exactly where you're at right now. My advice, go see your OBGYN now. He most likely will put you on clomid or femara for 3 cycles and you may even get referred to have your hubby checked during this time as well. Since you're 32 they may not want you to try on your own for that long without seeking help. They had us try for 9 months alone and they we started 3 rounds of femara. But you want to get the ball rolling with your Dr. asap. I went to the Dr. around the time we started TTC to just talk to my him and he gave me a run down of what all would happen if we didn't get pregnant on our own. BTW, IUI was so easy to deal with. Mostly likely they'll try IUI first, maybe up to 3 cycles before they try IVF. I was afraid to do IVF bc of everything I'd heard and wanted to try IUI first. I actually didn't want anything to do with either procedure in the beginning, but my hubby wanted to go as far as doing the IUI just once to see if pregnancy was even possible for me before looking into adoption. My advice is to get the ball rolling with getting the both of you checked out first before you worry too much. After my OB sent me to a specialist, I discovered I had a low ovarian reserve and that my TSH wasn't within normal range so they put me on a daily thyroid medicine. My hubby was checked out and he was perfect! It turned out with my issues, that we didn't even know about, IUI was perfect for me and it took on the very first try! I know 4 months feels like forever, but it's only a short amount of time. We had been trying for about 18 months at the time we conceived with the IUI procedure. Just hang in there! Good luck and baby dust to you! Keep us posted on anything new that comes up, I'd love to stay in touch. View Thread
Hi Lyn! Sorry I didn't respond sooner. I'm doing well. I'm 6 wks 4 days. We had the first ultrasound on Monday and we saw the heartbeat! The dr said we didn't have to see a heartbeat, but that it was a great sign to see it already. We have 1 more appt with the specialist next Wed. and then if everything looks good that will be our last appt. with her. My first appt with my ob is Dec. 17. That will be exactly 9 weeks. I haven't had any morning sickness so far. I seem to have more good days than bad....knock on wood. I've felt nauseated, had a lack of appetite, fatigue here and there. I've only had a couple of days where I have felt like lying in the bed all day. And yes, I've noticed I'm probably going to have to move up a cup size soon as well...and not complaints from the hubby on that! I don't think I've actually gained anything yet, but it is still early. My due date is July 22nd, just 4 days after hubby's bday! Keep me posted on the latest and I'll let you know if I find out anything new next Wed. View Thread
Hi Lyn! I haven't talked to you in a while. My dr sent us to a specialist in Sept and I met with her in early Oct. She suggested an IUI, so we decided to try one round. I had to do all of these tests to check different things and one of the tests came back that I have a low ovarian reserve. We decided to go thru with the procedure. I had a beta blood test last Sunday and it confirmed we are expecting! It's a nervous time for us because I'm having to go back every 3-4 days to check my hcg levels. As of monday I'm be on day 19 of pregnancy and the nurse said I'll have a ultrasound around day 30. I'm hope you and yours are doing well and have thought of you often. I can't even remember how to navigate this website to get back to previous conversations I've had with you. Hope you are well and hope to hear from you soon! View Thread
@lynmartin-Wow, sounds like you have a lot going on as well. Aside from the first month of Clomid, my next step is to have the day 21 Progesterone test done. I talked to a rep from our insurance company and they reminded me that we'll only be covered to be diagnosed, not treated if the Dr. tells us that we cannot conceive normally. I'll keep you posted on what happens in the coming weeks. Good luck to you!View Thread
@ATT76- Thanks for the info. My OB did inform me that I would have hot flashe and the other symptoms I mentioned. He never informed me that those symptoms would affect ovulation. Who knows...whatever is meant to meant to be will be. If not pregnant this time around, I'll begin my first round of Clomid. I'll have to go for a day 21 Progesterone reading. I'm not sure what that's for, but my OB gave me a whole list of things to do when I was there last. I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water with everything I have to do in the coming months. But it's just things that have to be done to get more answers. I'll keep you guys posted if anything interesting happens in the coming month. Good luck to you! View Thread
Hi! I didn't even see your last reply til today when I saw all the other conversation. Well, I had the HSG done about a week ago and everything was clear. I just got results from hubby's test and it says it's within normal limits. My clinic hasn't gotten the official paperwork yet, so that's all the info they could give me. I hope they mail something official out with more info. But not sure what more they could tell us. My OB only wants me to start the first month of Clomid if hubby's test comes back good. So, I guess I'll be starting that in July. I didn't like the Femara I was on at all. It gave me severe mood swings, hot flashes and I cried all the time for no reason. I talked to a friend that had taken Clomid and she said she didn't experience any bad side affects, so I'm hoping it's not as bad as Femara. So, with all the positive news, I have regained some hope. I believe everything happens for a reason and I know it just might not be our time to get pregnant. We've done everything right and waited to have a baby in order to have a finances in good order. But sometimes, you can plan all you want but it still might not be time to start a family...even though all of us feel ready. It's tough I know. Nobody understands the struggle like we do. Our main goal in having all of these tests done was to see if we could even have a baby on our own. If they say we can't, then we want to take the path to adoption. Our insurance will only cover the diagnosis of the condition, not the treatment. So, we cannot afford to do IVF, nor do I want to. Personally, I'd rather jump to adoption. But that's such a personal decision that I know everyone feels differently about it. My main reason for not doing IVF is there is no guarantee it will work and there you would have spent all that money. This is just a personal decision, and every couple has to do what is best for them and their situation. Let me know what you found out about the meds, if it was for you or the hubs. I found out a friend was pregnant back in April. That was a tough one for me. I agree, it's so nice to have someone to talk to and a place to vent. I just think I've come to a place on this journey where if i can't get pregnant, it's not the end of my world. We'll just have to wait and see where the journey takes us... I hope everything is going well for you guys and wish you the best! I hope you're having a wonderful week! TTYLView Thread
Hi! Sorry it's taken so long for me to respond. I'm sorry to hear things haven't worked out so far. We still haven't had positive results yet. I've got an appt. with my Dr. this Thursday to discuss a procedure to make sure there isn't a blockage in my tubes and to get my hubby checked out as well. It sounds like I'll be having the same test that you did with the dye. It doesn't look like something I'll be looking forward to! Oh well, It's just something that I'll have to endure. The last 3 months taking Femara did not go well. It make me crazy in ways I didn't even know existed. One night I held up in the bedroom and cried, for no reason, for about an hour. It was pitiful! We discussed it and have decided not to take any more meds bc it's just not worth it. Some women are just more well equipped to handle these type of things and I'm just not one of them. Like I don't see myself going the IVF route either. If the Dr. tells me that we cannot have children without something like IVF, we'll just adopt later on. I've prayed about it and believe the Lord is telling us to wait. For some reason, it's just not our time to have children and I certainly don't want to rush it. It's just human nature to want what you want right now! But I need to be patient and know that all things happen for a reason. And too, there is a time to every purpose under heaven. BTW, I charted my BBT and CM the last 2 months and can only pinpoint one month of ovulation. This last month I don't have evidence that I ovulated, which is a tough pill to swallow. All of this charting and worrying is taking away what little joy I had in this process. We broke down and told all of our parents, just so that nobody will ask. Since I'll be 31 later this year and my hubby is 34...people are bound to ask why we haven't started a family yet. I figure it's best for us to tell them now, so that I won't start crying if someone brings it up later on. I just need to let go and let God handle it, bc I can't anymore. I'm just so tired of worrying. Sorry, for the venting and complaining and going on and on. I know a lot of us say the same things over and over, but it's good to have others to talk to who know exaclty what you're going through. Take Care and let me know how it's going,
I started using fertilityfriend.com and it really helps to make sense of how everything working timing wise. We have been ttc for almost a year. Got off BC pills last march. I am almost 31, so Dr. put me my first round of Femara last month. I'm currently on CD 30 and should have started AF 2 days ago. Depending on your age, your Dr. may have you try for at least a year. Since I'm 'older' (so says the Dr.) he didn't want me to wait any longer and that's why he put me on Femara. I'm probably not much help, but just know there are a lot of ladies on here that are going thru the exact same thing. I know it's hard, but try not to stress b/c that makes things worse when TTC. Good luck and baby dust to you! View Thread
I totally understand how you feel. It's so hard when you hear about everyone around you TTC the first couple of months or even without trying. We've been trying for almost a year. And my Dr. put me on Femara last month. We also waited until we were more settled financially. We've been married for 7 1/2 years and are the last ones out of all our siblings to have children. It's hard when everyone around you is waiting and wondering why we haven't had a baby yet. We always just assumed we would be pregnant right away. I guess it just happens easily for some. I never would have thought I would have to take meds to get pregnant. But I know stress isn't good for us either and will make things worse. We've even talked about adoption, if the Dr. tells us we can't have children. If not pregnant in 2 months, our Dr. is going to check my tubes and hubbies SC. If all is okay, we'll do 3 more months of Femara. After that, he said we'll have to see as specialist to take it further. I'm not interested in going that far. So, adoption would be our next step. Good luck to you guys and keep us posted!View Thread
I'm so sorry to hear that. I know it's hard. AF started 5 days early last month, which never happens. AF has been a normal 28 days on and off the pill. I had a few issues here and there the first couple of months when I came off the pill, but nothing lately. And I'm on CD 30 today with no current signs of AF. My OBGYN put me on my first round of Femara last month and he was very hopeful that I would be pregnant after the first round. I'm trying not to get too excited. I logged in here this morning to see if anyone else had this happen to them and that's when I read your post. We've been TTC since last April and it's tough. But I know, God will bless us in his own time. And we have considered adodption as well. My Dr. said to test on CD 35 if no sign of AF by then. The wait is making me crazy! I feel different in some ways compared to AF as of right now, but I'm not sure if my mind is playing tricks on me. I know the common signs of pregnancy won't show up for a little while...so not sure what to think! Let us know what happens next month! View Thread
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