You are so nice to check in from time to time. I am kind of new been here a few months. The boards do appear to have been busy before, but now no one hardly ever gets on. I found this site hoping to find women like myself. But let's see maybe it'll pick up.
I am very sorry about your losses, specially your most recent one I really am. Have you made it to 10-12 weeks before? Have you or are you under doctor's care for the RA& Lupus? We're you being seen by a Reproductive Endo? Has your husband be tested, for chromosone disorders, SA and have you guys done the HLA genotype testing? I am just curious to know. I mean if you feel comfortable about your decision then Amen...good for you. But if you aren't or maybe are not so sure then don't give up hun..I know 43 may not be the ideal age but who cares...I heard it's actually until 45 that most RE may be skeptical and even then. I am glad you are back in school..good for you. I wish I can find the motivation to go myself.
I understand and feel your pain..I hate infertility...I am not giving up now...when they say IVF is your only option I will throw in the towel because I know that will never happen, I don't have the money probably never will...
It was a pleasure hope to hear from you one day...xoxoView Thread
It is so wonderful to hear from you. I know it's hard.I also find myself crying at times and I know how you feel. You think ppl think you are crazy..but you know what I don't care because only God knows my pain and yours. I am sure if they were in your shoes they would feel the same way.. I know how you feel sometimes you wanna be left alone and not talk to anyone and sometimes you just wish someone would ask so you can express how you are feeling and let the world know he was my baby my son and he may no longer be here but I miss him and I don't want him to be forgotten..well that's how I feel anyway..I know the Holidays are specially tough I also have two other children 10 and 13 they are a little older than yours but at times like this I break down myself sometimes..they have all their request mom I want this and that..and can't help but think about my other son..what would he have wanted he would of been a teenager wanting the lastest electronics and the latest sneakers ect and ask myself why did this happen..it's not fair why him...but those emotions are all normal, I guess that's what I am trying to say..sadness will come from those thoughts of what ifs what would have been...I know and I understand...but just have to keep on going and we are both blessed becasue we both have to other children to care for..they are the ones that help me get thru my loss...
Also from my understanding you don't have any other fertility issues...as for me all of a sudden I have repeated pregnancy loss...I hope and pray God will give us our miracles...
Till then take care yourself your babies and if I don't here from you Merry Christmas...I find confort in knowing are babies are together and know each other via us in the Heavens..mine is older and will help the Angels take care of your little one..there is a reason as to why God crossed our paths..View Thread
Hi hun I am so sorry for your loss. It's a pain that you will learn to cope with in time, but that will never go away. You are not alone in your sadness.
I am a mother of 3 children. One which I lost almost 10 years ago in a horrific car accident, my husband and his younger sister which was 14 also died that tragic day. My son my first born, was only 6 years old. I miss them all greatly...but the loss of my son has the weighed the hardest on my heart...and I still break down from time to time...though I know he's in a better place I still don't understand why he passed and why he passed in such a tragic way..but one day God will give me my answer...When ever I am down I talk to my son..my Guardian Angel and I tell him to give me strength and to watch over me and his brother and sister.
To my despair I had tied my tubes just 11 months before my son's death because I just had, had a baby and listening to everybody(which I REGRET) tie your tubes you are so young to be having all those kids, 3 is enough..blahh blahh I made the decision at just 23 to sterlize myself. Then my son passes...time goes by I meet someone else..who is 6 yrs younger than I with no kids...he desperately wants kids and so do I...I reverse my tubes..I end up getting pregnant twice with 2 etopics..which results in the removal of my right tube. So I am like ok I have my good tube left..well I get pregnant 4 times and miscarry all of them...I have done numerous testing and everything is fine..with the exception of a blood clotting disorder which I am on a regimen for...I am lovenox, baby aspirin ,folic acid and Clomid...this is my 4th round of Clomid and nothing... I am hoping for a Christmas miracle..I really want to get pregnant and stay pregnant.I have never had any issues with infertility until now...If nothing happens I will have to go save up for a specialist and seeing an Reproductive Endo is not cheap...I hope I get my miracle...
I don't know what you are looking for..but I may have an idea..perhaps someone who can be a shoulder to cry on at times..someone who can relate..someone to just listen...I know you are scared...but if this is what you want go for it...don't live your life with any regrets...pray and put it in God's hands...Do it in your son's honor..I want to another baby so bad...I hope God will give me the opportunity...I can not replace my son...but it will be in his honor whether boy or girl...Thank you for your post...I hope to hear from you soon..God bless...View Thread
Hey hun...How are you? I just wanted to check up on you to see how things were progressing? I know it;s a process unfortunately we just can't snap our fingers and make it happen...would be nice tho So how is your job hunting going? Can't wait to hear from you View Thread
Hi Katie sending prayers your way....I am so happy you finally have some answers and you guys are on your way to making this happen. As for the finances thing trust me, I totally get it that. That has been my stand still and probably the reason I don't have my baby yet. There is no help for infertility and it's just not fair. Insurance companies cover only the minimum if your lucky, which I don't get. But anyways I know 3k is alot of money because we don't have it, but then again it's not an impossible amount to get. Have you looked into McDonalds or even a supermarket? I'm sure they will work with you. Also tax season is around the corner I know you guys wanna start right away but just something to consider. Good luck hun and don't give up. I'm starting my 3rd round of Clomid tomorrow. So let's see if this my lucky month View Thread
Hi l8dsheena , Thats awesome news. I meant to reply yesterday. But see things are finally coming together you guys are on the right path. That's why sometimes we have to look outside the box and push these doctors to do more or just look elsewhere. And that is exactly what you did, and it payed off Yayy..You will be bringing a little one home in no time....Best wishes and God Bless keep us postedView Thread
Thank you Prayforamiracle. Yes it is the toughest thing I have ever had to endure and still am. I am so greatful for my children. I never had any problems conceiving until now that my son is gone. I have learned so many things about infertility and conception itselft that I never knew before. Getting pregnant was not an obstacle before for me but now I can sympathize and feel you ladies pain and frustration. When you are dealing with infertiltity, it seems everyone is pregnant but you and you start asking a lot of questions and a lot whys. But yes I have had to fight with doctors to get answers because I suffer from secondary infertility and they just go off the fact I have had children before so it will just happen.I'm like hello thats 4 miscarriages (2 chemicals) something is wrong someone please listen to me, so frustrating. And of course money is a big issue, I have worked very hard to get the little answers I now have. Hopefully this treatment will help. Like you said some ladies have had success on Lovenox praying I do too. Sending lots of baby dust your way hun. Best of wishes and God bless.View Thread
I am so sorry hun..I know your diappointment too well. I know money is tight that is my issue as well. Specialist and tests and medications everything is money. Hopefully she can do it for free (fingers crossed). Or if not try going to the ER you never know they tested mine when i had a miscarriage but did not get any embryonic tissue it was all clots. But with that being said maybe this is your chance to get some answers. I would also suggest to have your doctor do a full infertility blood work up, but you have to wait about a month or so until all the hormones are out of your system that is why they told me.Good luck hun. I know what you are going thru. May the Lord bless us with little ones soon. Good luck and God bless keep us posted.View Thread
Hi MommaGoats I can totally relate, I have had 4 miscarriages in the last year and half. All ending early between 5-7 weeks. I know its devastating, but all we can do is move on and educate ourselves and push our doctors to do more, run more tests because something is going on in our bodies. We can conceive we just can not sustain the pregnancy. I did a lot of bloodwork, everything came back good with the exeption of the Lupus Anticougualant, that came back positive, I was a little concerned but somewhat relieved, perhaps this it. I am now on clomid, extra folic acid, baby aspirin and Lovenox injections. Let's see if this does the trick parying to God it does. Also my chances are cut in half every month because I only have one tube Hope this helps. Keep me posted and keep in touch. I can def. relate to your story. ((HUGS)) and baby dust your way. God bless.View Thread
Hi Ani, thank you for your response it really means a lot to me that you took the time to read not only my post but about my life.I am so sorry for your losses too. I seen back in August you posted about your pregnancy, hopefully you still have your little bun in the oven. Sending lots of baby dust your way as well to all the ladies on this panel. Keep in touch and God bless.View Thread