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The advice I would give is to not dwell on the reason. Many, many women who experience an early pregnancy loss never get an answer. It's just too early to tell. And most likely chromosomal. I had two losses last year, didn't get a reason with either one of them. My OB offered to perform the Recurrent Pregnancy Loss panel of tests after my second loss (some OBs won't until you've had three losses) just for my peace of mind, and all of my tests came back normal... nothing even questionable at all.
The hardest part is accepting you will never know. What you need to do now is grieve. Take the time to heal emotionally. After the pain starts to subside, your fear of losing another baby will turn into hope of bringing home a baby and you will feel ready to try again. Not saying you won't be nervous.View Thread


. I am beyond thrilled and absolutely terrified, but thinking good thoughts. I will call my OB in the morning to start progesterone and potentially lovenox. On a side note, I also got a new job offer this afternoon as well. A good day all around.
Thank you all for the love and support these last few months. You truly are all phenomenal. And Vicky... You're next!View Thread


Ani: good luck with this new cycle. I hope it goes by quickly and your get your BFP.
My update (POSS TRIGGS!): CD#27. Took a FRER Saturday morning and got what *might* be a BFP. It was very, very faint. In fact, I missed it the first time I looked at it. Was about to put the test away and caught a glimpse of what could be a line. Showed in the three minute window and it seemed pink to me, but it could be wishful thinking.
I will re-test tomorrow morning. AF is due on Wednesday.View Thread


Vybe - crossing my fingers for you. I've never had o spotting or implantation bleeding,so hopefully it's a good sign for you.
As for me... I'm feeling less than hopeful for this cycle despite what I thought was well-timed BDing. I'm 5 days out from starting my period. Took an early response test this morning, BFN. The 4 times I've been pregnant, I've gotten a positive at this point. I suppose there is still a chance for this cycle, but I'm feeling pretty down in the dumps today. I've never had trouble conceiving, just with keeping the pregnancy. Now it seems I'm going to have trouble with both. To add insult to injury, I have pg symptoms... tender breasts, occassional nausea, pressure. Thing is, I had them last month, too. Obviously it's all in my head.
Getting pregnant really shouldn't be this hard.View Thread

My update: CD #20, 5 DPO. Got a solid smiley on my OPK on Wednesday last week on CD 15, a couple days later than I thought I would. Got some (hopefully) well-timed BDing in based off the OPKs. So, time will tell.
Hope you all are doing well. Have a fantastic week!View Thread

Ani - fingers are crossed for you. Hope the 2ww goes buy quickly for you.
My update - CD #13. Got a high fertility indicator on my OPKs yesterday and this morning. Still waiting on the "peak fertility" indicator. I will test again this evening. We've gotten a lot of good BDing in, so I'm feeling optimistic and hopeful for this cycle. We shall see.View Thread

I think my DH is very similar to yours. I think a lot of men are. My DH is a fixer by nature and has no idea how to help me cope when things just are fixable. He wants nothing more than to make it better but has no idea how to take away my pain, so he avoids it or says harsh things.
You have every right to be sad. There's no time limit on greiving. But, if you want my honest opinion, I think counseling is a great idea. Especially if your DH is willing to go with you. I don't think he thinks you're beyond fixing, but I do think he feels he doesn't know how to help you feel better. And it's not a matter of fixing. You're not broken, you're trying to heal and move forward. There's a big difference.
I think counseling would have a dual benefit.... you will hopefully learn some new coping techniques and DH may also learn how to be more supportive, to let go of his need to fix things for you and just BE there for you.
Hang in there. And please, let me know what you decide to do. Hugs and prayers for you.View Thread
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