I'm so sorry for your losses and you're having such a hard time! My story is almost exactly alike. I'm 25.5 years old, I've been married 4.5 years, and had 3 miscarriages (our first baby took 2.5 years to conceive, then over a year in between the other babies). I conceived while I was on Clomid. It's been close to a year since my last miscarriage and I still haven't been able to conceive, even with the Clomid. It's frustrating.
However, since then, my doctor has been doing tests and a few months ago he found that the inside of my uterus was covered in polyps (tumor-like growths). There was no way I could've carried a baby full term. Another test uncovered a blood clotting disorder that's linked to miscarriage. I ended up having to have surgery recently, and now when I do get pregnant I'll have to have shots every day.
This is exactly what I was afraid of, but I'm glad I know now, because I would've just kept trying and trying, and would've lost my next baby, too. Now I can do something about it.
I understand where you're at. I didn't want to do these tests either - It was weeks and months of chasing down my insurance company, going to the doctor to get poked and prodded, plus the surgery and tests were expensive (even though our insurance paid for some of it). It was a huge pain, but like I said, now I know what's wrong and I know I can do something about it, and I hope that I'll get pregnant again soon and get to keep this baby! That gives me hope!
My advice would be to talk with a specialist. We switched to a specialist after our second miscarriage, and they've been really good about knowing which tests we need to do and which ones we don't. It's their job to know, while a regular OB-GYN's job mostly deals with prenatal care, not infertility or recurrent miscarriage.
My experience with the other doctors (regular OB-GYN's) was that they would try to make the best guess they could to help you - they would say, "Well we could try this" or "This didn't work, so let's try this," but they didn't really have a clear plan. After a few years, I was tired of hearing "Let's just wait and see if this works," but with this new doctor, I feel like we've made more progress in the last 4 months than in the last 4 years!
I think If you go to a specialist they'll be able to make a plan for you and it will actually end up saving you time, money, and heartache. I hope this helps! In the end, it's completely up to you and what's best for you. Good luck!!! I hope you get your dream baby really soon!View Thread
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