Thanks for the info. And that is what I mean and it is that we get informed on forums like this. All I know is that I don't stand a chance to sue a doctor and let me tell you there must be urologists that will realise one day that for too long they were lying to us. And it will just be one who will stand up against all the others and a few of them that will follow and believe me I've already saw a urologist who told me that any urologist who believes that all men have orgasms in the same way don't have a clue and also anybody who thinks that when they cut out your ejaculation or the money shot as they call it in the blue movies and your climax will be the same, don't have an idea about interesting sex. They probably think that everybody do sex as something that you do to make children or in the old missionary style.View Thread
You know I actually got more answers from the net than from my Urologist. .Off course he also told me not to believe what I've read on the internet. But believe me if I had to believe him then I was the only person in the world with sexual problems after TURP. You can have your point of view but I'm very glad for forums like this where I can complain and read about other peoples problems. I'm sure some urologists do read this and some at least do realise that our lives had been ruined. At least I can see that the TURP isn't been done so frequently anymore and that at least some medical sites now acknowledge the fact that the sexual problems do exist. Do you really think we can sue the medical profession successfully if they have corrupt research and a lot of money to back them. If we complain on sites like this then at least they might realise that we become clever and that they cant just do what they want and make money because we can warn each other and they might loose credibility and also work and money. And then of course they will stop ruining other men's lives. Money is all my urologist cares about I'm sure, I can also go to my urologist now with much more information and believe me he doesn't know what to say because he told me that he doesn't believe in the medication for BHP. But why does he believe the research that found no sexual problems after TURP and not the research that have good results for the use of medicine for BHP They also know that men don't talk about these things with each other and that is why they could do the operation for so long and pretend that everybody is happy. Now with the internet they realise that at least 30% of sexually active men are not happy at all with there quality of live after the TURP. Some urologists have been written about silent sufferers and a considerable concern about sexual problems after TURP long ago but all the other urologists enjoyed making money and they were cutting out prostates for fun while nobody listened. Thank goodness for forums like this one and believe me this is not the only one.View Thread
If I can use the internet to warn just one person not to ruin his life like mine has been ruined I would like to do it and I think that the internet has helped a lot of people. I wasn't aware of any other treatment than the TURP and I had no problems other than a PSA of 3.8. According to my urologist it was too high and I have to get a TURP. He didn't tell me of any other medication or watchful waiting and in fact he told me that I mustn't worry at all because the sex will feel exactly the same. Now after I've read a lot of other peoples points of view and some of them are urologists I realise that my urologist didn't tell me about any other treatment for BHP and also that he did the most invasive operation that he could with the most sexual problems. I've also read on London urology that they only do the TURP as a last option. I can now go to my urologist and confront him with all the info and if he tells me I'm the first person who ever had a problem with this operation I can ask him what kind of a Urologist is he because I've read about a lot of unhappy people on the internet and I've also read the views of urologists as early as 1997 that talked about considerable concern of unhappy people after the TURP. I also read of silent sufferers. I'm definitely not going to be a silent sufferer. You also know that we can do nothing legally. Somehow they always have this research that couldn't find any sexual problems. Who can believe any medical research .. All I know is that my life is a total mess after this dreadful operation and I'm glad I can use this method of telling people. Don't believe corrupt research or corrupt doctors. Read about other peoples experiences and get a true picture,View Thread
I still don't understand how urologists can tell us that after the operation the sex and everything will be perfectly normal exept that we won't ejaculate anymore. Then if it isn't the case, they just keep on saying that it can't be the TURP operation as it was in my case. I know what a good sex life I had before the operation and what a pathetic climax I have now. My sexlife was exelent and very important to me and I hate that doctor who talked me into it. Why didnt he put me on flomax before he did this dreadfull operation so that I could at least have had some time to think or as my new urologist say I could also feel how retro would feel with the flomax. The urologist who did the TURP on me also went on as if I don't have much time with my symptoms and that I must book a bed in the hospital as soon as I could. I thought that there was big problems and that if he didnt operate on me that it could develop into cancer. Little did I know. All I know today is that don't trust any doctor anymore. I'm so sorry I didn't know my new urologist at that time. I know 3 other people who had the operation and they are totally unhappy with their new retro climaxes. I still dont know anybody who are happy with it so I dont know how they can keep on telling us that the feeling and everything will be perfectly normal after the operation with all the evidence of unhappy people. I even read on another website about somebody who shot his urologist. I can understand his frustration.View Thread
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