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This is not a new problem but now that she is more capable its becoming more difficult to deal with.
She is a perfect child - respectful, helpful, attentive, resourceful and pleasant - when she is away from home (school. church. camp, friends) but she is the complete opposite when she is home...not always but she is quite often unhelpful, disrespectful, inattentive and combative at home.
I recognize that some of this has to do with the fact that she gets away with stuff when she's not home. Her qualities make her a go-to student at school and other places but at home she has to pitch in, clean up, and share with her little sister. I recognize that we give her a lot of latitude b/c she is capable.
Her disregard for the rules at home is about to drive me crazy...example; if she wakes up bf the last adult wakes up she is not to turn on the TV...she woke up bc the last adult almost everyday and turned on the TV almost every day unless we unplugged it the night before. when asked why she gets sheepish and says she doesn't know why she did it and yes, she understands the rule.
A psychologist said that she doesn't have regard for the natural heirarchy within the family.
She has a 4.5 year old sister who is cooperative and respectful and aware enough to tell her big sister that she isn't doing what she was told and she's gonna get in trouble.
What can I do to help her understand the role she plays within the family?View Thread





















It was as if she was overstimulated upon waking and was hearing a lot more noise than was really going on. The next couple nights I made sure to put her to bed a little earlier and didn't let her watch any tv for the last two hours or so before bed, and things were fine for a few nights. Last night she woke up again, terrified and wanting to cuddle with me. The look on her face was sheer terror. Again, she kept telling me to be quiet, even when I hadn't spoken. I asked her if she was hearing voices and she said yes. I asked what they were saying and she said she didn't know. The noises/voices she is hearing only last about 5 minutes at the most, and then everything is fine again. It seems to me that this could be a cross between a nightmare or night terror and hypnopompic hallucinations. She NEVER hears voices when she's awake. It has only happened these couple times upon waking from a nightmare. All of these occurences happened within the first 2 hours after she fell asleep.
She's well liked among her peers, teachers, and everyone who knows her. She makes friends easily and is a good student who wins citizenship awards all the time. She's in first grade. At first I thought these were night terrors but she remembers them in the morning. She can even tell me about the scary dream. The first time, she said that she dreamed that the world was going to explode and that her dad was mad at me (me being her mother). Last night she said that she dreamed her dad turned into a scary doll. It concerns me that these terrifying dreams have both included her father. We've been divorced for 3.5 years and he's been remarried for about 9 months.
I posted this on another site where someone suggested it could be mono, since mono is sometimes associated with Alice in Wonderland syndrome. However when I looked into that syndrome, it said it causes visual hallucinations. My daughter didn't tell me about visual hallucinations but I am going to ask her about that. Does that sound plausible? She only had the one fever (and her head and neck were sore at the time) I took her to the doctor who said it wasn't meningitis, then tested her for strep but it was negative. She hasn't been complaining of any other symptoms.View Thread


If he is doing something odd, I usually ask him why? And I let him answer, and I think about his answer as long as it's sensible. Then I try to take to my parenting role of guiding into different ways of thinking, through words and actions. Does it always work? No. Repetition is the name of the game.
If he responds to my requests in a way that I didn't want, such as "No thank you", I try to laugh to myself and then change the way I ask him. He is obviously responding to the way I asked it, haha. It's kind of funny. Sometimes I ignore his answer at first, for a little while, and then come back later, rephrasing the request.
PS: by himself, he is very good. Playing with others, he is good but loud. He screams a lot. He romps and jumps with lots of boy energy.View Thread



PLEASE HELP! What can I do to help her so that her labia are not sticking together so that she can stop grabbing and pulling.View Thread









My seven year old also does baby talk plus she makes up her own words. It stresses me out. When she plays with girls there is no baby talk, but when she plays with boys or is at home that is when we hear the baby talk. I know she is flirting with the boys, but they don't like it any more than I do. I tell her every day not to baby talk or make words up. I have even offered her incentives to change her behavior.
She is a sensitive child and also cries at the drop of a hat. That I don't get either, except that her patience for throwing a temper tantrum will outlast my patience every time. Really I know that is why she continues to behave the way she does. How do I increase my patience to deal with her, so I don't need to give in?
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Your young daughter needs to be seen by a professional, someone who specializes in children. A good professional is skilled in how to work with a child and can not be fooled.
I highly suggest you look into Ross Greene's approach. He is amazing at working with challenging youth. He has books, and a great website. I will paste the link for you.
http://www.livesinthebalance.org/
Take care,
-KathleenView Thread









Here is a link to explore, http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2011-10-26-sensory-processing-issues-explained
If you search online, there is a lot of good information.
Hope this helps!
-KathleenView Thread













http://www.thebalancedmind.org/
They have a specific group for young children called "very young". At the top of the page click on "connect", then when the drop down menu appears, hit "online support communities".
I joined back when my youngest daughter was 7, and acted very much the same way as your son.
The parents have been my biggest education and source for support and guidance.
Take care,
-KathleenView Thread









http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/8-year-old-tantrums-is-this-normalView Thread



My mother used to do this to myself and my two brothers, it was something that, as others have mentioned, we greatly enjoyed (don't know why now).
She is a nurse, and has been since before we were born.
If there is no roughhousing going on during the fun time I can't imagine this would be a problem. If the child was discomforted I would of course stop immediately and never try again.
When this was done to me it was a strictly upwards motion, no twisting or jerking was involved.
I am not a medical professional, just speaking from experience. I now have a child on the way and like others I want a healthy child and the thought of doing this crossed my mind and so I did a search, and that is how I found this thread.
I was not able to find any reason not to do this in a controlled manner.View Thread



I posted a response on the Parents Community.
http://exchanges.webmd.com/parenting-exchange
-KathleenView Thread



Honestly, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it....one day she may really have to go urgently, and she'll use the school restroom.
In the grand scheme of things, you'll have bigger things to worry about - not using the school bathroom isn't a big deal - and fairly common too.
Take care,
-KathleenView Thread

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