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you need to learn about sexual health and how the lack of it effects society as a whole.
and dont you dare write me off as some liberal hippie because im not i just know what makes good sense for people as a whole. shame never helped anything but it sure has done a lot of harm over the years.View Thread




We feel like we are living on the edge waiting for a bomb to drop and he has become very sullen and depressed. He won't talk to me about it accept to express his innocence and anger that he is being accused.
I plan to get him counseling but I am on the verge of a breakdown and I fear that if charges are brought that he will become suicidal. I just don't know what to do and talking to family is not an option because they have all but abandoned us since this happened.View Thread










I'm going to take him to open house at the community college and see if it interests him at all.
I'm also letting him know about free training to be an EMT.
I can see him liking something like that.
He just cares about hanging out with friends and having fun. Meanwhile my soon to be 17 year old daughter is working part time, gets straight A's and is busy with color guard.
I think I will look into a life coach. In fact, I could use one for myself! lolView Thread



I'm worried as she is very developed (32 b bras, pubic hair and pimples on her face.) At the start of this year (2016) most of her class mates have started their period (she's the 2nd oldest in the class) - now she is getting a bit concerned as well. Should I take her to another doctor, or do I follow their instruction - to wait until after the year is completed???? I'm going crazy...
AltijayView Thread


I'm sorry - this must be very frustrating for you and your son.
There is a condition called, Encopresis.
The information below is taken from the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry,
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Some of the reasons for soiling are:
- problems during toilet training
- physical disabilities, which make it hard for the child to clean him/herself
- physical condition, for example chronic constipation, Hirschprung's Disease
- family or emotional problems
Although most children with soiling do not have a physical condition, they should have a complete physical evaluation by a family physician or pediatrician. If no physical causes are found, or if problems continue, the next step is an evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist. The child and adolescent psychiatrist will review the results of the physical evaluation and then decide whether emotional problems are contributing to the encopresis.
Encopresis can be treated with a combination of educational, psychological and behavioral methods. Most children with encopresis can be helped, but progress can be slow and extended treatment may be necessary. Early treatment of a soiling or bowel control problem can help prevent and reduce social and emotional pain for the child and family.
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What to do?
Punishing or humiliating a child with encopresis will only make matters worse. Instead, talk to your son's doctor, who can help you and your child through this challenging but treatable problem.
Take care, and wishing you all the best!!
-KathleenView Thread






I've been dealing with this with my 9 (almost 10) year old son all his life. And while it's been frustrating because I've made several pleas to his pediatrician who simply brushed off his unwillingness to potty as something that he would out grow. While I do believe that his behavior does originally stem from and has since resulted in medical and emotional issues, I also KNOW that while there are plenty of mental issues that he cannot be blamed for associated with his behavior/condition; his unwillingness to even TRY to help with fixing his behavior, his complete lack of acknowledgment of a problem, and his lack of emotional response to ANY tactic (including embarrassment, punishment, praise, bribery or even laxative treatment), IS something he should and I do make him take responsibility for. It is NOT all your fault!! Children DO have to take responsibility for deliberate choices and actions. They DO have to accept partial responsibility when it comes to bettering their life. By saying he is completely innocent and cannot help it is exacerbating the problem and teaching him to be a victim of uncontrolled factors in every part of his life (whatever they would be). It is allowing him to not only be co-dependant, but to pass blame completely onto others, mostly me as his mother.
There are some of us who are in your corner with support and understanding, who are really there ourselves, and know not to judge or assume about someone else's life. Just thought you should know. You had it right when you said people who aren't living with this don't understand. But it goes beyond that. They don't know you or your every day life and to judge or put you down is intolerable. And I know, as a mom who deals with this, how much guilt and blame I already place on myself. People, especially other mothers who "say they know", have no right to add to that.View Thread



She describes the pain as a full/bloating feeling, worse after she eats.
She does complain of abd pain right away in the morning, but not bad enough to skip breakfast.
May take her to see dr since it's been going on a while.View Thread











Children are "safest" at home with those they love, so it's easy to lash out at you. Your daughter knows if she talked to her friend or teacher that way, she'd have awful social embarrassment.
I honestly believe she may need to do some soul searching as to why she can't control her lashing out at you. Maybe it's fear (of going off to college, fear of failure), possibly stress and/or depression. Your daughter probably doesn't even realize what is fueling her behavior .........
Either which way, I think finding a really good therapist who can work through things would be greatly beneficial for her.
Take care,
KathleenView Thread



Hi I wrote this post for parents and their sons to understand why they are Diapers Lovers.
First DL is a sexual fetish but this is harmless lots of people have a fetish.
Keep in mind here that the more you know about why your child is a DL the better parent you will be. Most importantly you need to keep in mind this is not your child's choice. Yes you have questions, do you really think your child does not. He is the one who has to live with it and understand this is a lifelong thing and the more you know the more you can both help each other.
Click on the following url
https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Sexual_fetishism&oldid=628639810
Read carefully: Psychological Origins and Development and especially about the Transitional Object and Behaviorism. Keep in mind when they are referring to the term sexual here they are talking about mind development not an act. And, understand that the "Transitional object' is the diaper and that the 'Behaviorism' is the changing of that diaper.
What I'm reading here is that as the mother begins to pull away from total care of the child then the child begins to look at the repeated contact with the (piece of cloth aka the diaper) as the continuation of that bond. And that the repeated changing of the diaper only strengthens that bond. Keep in mind that once this occurs it never goes away. It also seems there is a window of opportunity where this takes place. Which would explain why, there are not a lot of kids who are DLs.
In the defense of the child who is and it is not every boy but for those boys who are DLs any parent who gets mad at that child is wrong.
If you read the information I posted it seems very self explanatory.
"First it happens in infancy that the baby develops the fetish".
Keep in mind this is not a bad thing many people have a fetish and they are very normal people.
Secondly it happens when the mother begins to break away from caring for the baby's every need and allows the baby to begin to explore on its own in other words allowing the baby to crawl and explore its surroundings, and only when the baby is months old.
This is actually a very important part of a baby's development. But there are some babies who want to cling to the mother's bond longer and tend to do so for a period of time until they do eventually begin the exploratory process. These babies therefore develop the fetish or the transitional object as it is called, that being the "teddy bear" or the "piece of cloth aka the diaper" as a continuation of the motherly bond. Not all babies cling to this bond so strongly it is only those that do who develop in this case the diaper fetish or become the DL. Explaining why not all boys are DLs.
The fact is these babies are just as normal as any other baby they just are trying to cling to the motherly bond a little longer. That being said that is why any mother who has a boy who is a DL really has nothing to fear he just wanted to keep close to his mother a little longer when he was a baby.
Thirdly when the baby had contact with the mother when this transition took place any time his diaper was changed it only strengthened the fetish that much more. In other words he identified the diaper and the diaper changing as a way of continuing the bond with the mother.
The fact that some boys are DLs can possibly lie dormant for years. Often a child can keep it a secret for many years. Fighting with confusion strife and thinking there is something really wrong with them. When in reality they are just as normal as any other child. Where, one child chooses a teddy bear another a blanket and the other a (piece of cloth aka a diaper).
What I'm saying here is that parents who are not aware of this fact need to understand why it happens and accept it, "Because it will never go away". They need to understand it is developed through a sense of love of need and a sense of security in infancy.
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ThanksView Thread






Is your daughter doing well? Is her medication keeping her stable?
-KathleenView Thread





You need to be calm, firm and loving.
I would start off by discussing your plan with him.
Tell your son, that as of tonight you will spend 20 minutes with him at bedtime - period, that's it.
Lay with him, read to him, or whatever.
Then after 20 minutes, kiss him and reassure him that the house is locked and you're all safe.
When he comes in your room, you remind him that you already spent time with him, and he needs to get back in his bed. When he fusses, cries, yells, or whatever, you stay calm and ignore him.
You may even have to lock your bedroom door.
You need to be consistent, because children are so smart - if you give in once, they learn that if they fuss long enough, or up the ante, you'll eventually give in.....so don't.
Does he have a nightlight in his room?
His Dad could also have a talk with him - let his son know that the house is safely locked every night, and reassure your son that just because he isn't home doesn't mean something bad will happen.
Take care,
-KathleenView Thread



Anyone with similar experience?View Thread






It sounds like your son is going through a lot and talking to a professional may really help him.
Teens can seem happy, and hold it together, but on the inside be struggling horribly.
Take care,
-KathleenView Thread



We saw the gi who performed lactose breath test=negative, fructose breath test=positive & glucose = negative.
We are now on a no fructose diet & he seems to be improving. It has been a week since the fructose test which left him very sick for several days. He has severe nausea & dizziness which began 30 minutes into the test. His numbers went from -17 to 40. We are also using a probiotic that is specialized for those with GI issues.
I will update as we move through this new treatment plan. We are hoping that the new food modifications help him to continue to improve. PS: I asked for this test in October of 2014.......View Thread

















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